Passive heroines who wait for the hero to break her undesirable engagement

 I hate this plot with a passion. Also that time heroines were so so passive. They wont break off the marriege engagement ( not marriage, that era women didnt break marriages. LOL. once mangal sutra was tied, that it. that was their noose :-P somehow in all these movies it was ok for the hero to hit on a girl who was engaged to some other guy, or if she has a boyfriend , no qualms about that , but thats a topic for another blog).  

So Anyway, these women- our soft pure bubbly sweet heroine, is engaged to someone else. Hero comes along, they look at the hero with wistful eyes, they flirt with all their heart, They preach the importance of true love to the guy.  They are some one who is so passionate about love but they never break their engagements on their own even tho they dont love their fiancé, Not even until the wedding day. They break off - only once they find alternative option. WTF? The option comes up on wedding day - Our hero comes to the wedding altar and stops the wedding and Yo Lady is ready to run off at the drop of a hat, but BUT she was totally ready to get married to this other guy ( some times abusive and asshole as well) minutes before. No ethics or what?  Why? They were shown as educated and having careers but absolutely no agency. And as if its 1960s where women dont have life without marriage. This is the case in so many movies, even progressive ones like 3 idiots, dil chata hai and even Jab we met ( but that is somewhat excusable because geet was stupid) Kannada movies - Godhi mai banna for one...

Also like sometimes the fiance is a decent and good human. These ladies are so inconsiderate and self centred - tumhara hona ho uska ho izzat hai :D Its not romantic, it is abusive immature and really those ladies are bad persons.

its a pity we were brought up on a heavy dose of such bad characters as leads :-( 

Some thoughts

People say walk like you are walking on flowers, but if you really want people to walk softly, they should walk like they are walking in sharp rocks - bare foot ;-) 

Every negative thought or emotion is a key to a treasure, it points to a belief which is not serving me n needs releasing.

What is your intention in saying something? or Anything? . Have u observed this aspect. Why do u say what u say?

Idea - ann app which will make u do a task in your list before allowing you to doom scroll.

effects of not talking phone on a walk

What I'm seeing right now, it's a virtual reality. It's an illusion that's created by the software - my brain,  which is trained from childhood, right? And the input that I'm getting is from my retina, mostly. My main input is the visual one that I get from the retina. Then there are other inputs , from my skin, temperature from my skin, from my ears, balance, whether I'm upright or not, whether I'm moving or not, all this. 

So, I just realized that my virtual reality and if somebody else is walking with me, their virtual reality, their stimulation, what they see, their game, it maybe different, definitely not the same, maybe slightly different or very different. It depends on their height, their viewpoint. Like I'm 5'3", so my whole virtual reality is seen from that height. If they're taller, then the whole reality is seen from some other angle. And depending on how their eye is, whether they have clear eyesight, or maybe everybody has slightly different viscosity. So they may be seeing it slightly warmer, cooler. 

And it's not possible to see somebody else's virtual reality at all, right? And what they focus on, and what they focus on depends on how they're trained from childhood. Like what I'm seeing right now, I'm seeing plants and a TV, I'm not paying much attention to the roof. But somebody else may have a habit of looking up, so they see a different thing and they see something else, they may see dirt which I don't see. 

So, so  I thought one way to look at what they're seeing is, like record the electrical pulses that are coming out of their retina ( thru optic nerve) and feed it to my brain. So I know what they're seeing. So that'll give me some insight. That'll give me insight about whether eye focuses on, that's that that will definitely be different. The contrast change in contrast, the change in the perspective, how tall or short they are. So I get some input, but how their brain interprets that input and creates virtual reality, that is very hard. Or is it? Or is it? I have seen some videos where AI looks at the ECG of the brain, is it called ECG? I don't know, of the brain, and then it converts it into pictures. So if I'm seeing a picture on the screen, the AI is reading this input and converting it into an image, which is pretty similar, it may not be the same, but similar. So, so maybe maybe we'll be able to see what somebody else, what your reality looks like. That'd be cool.

On soul choosing the life path

We sat on this roller coaster to experience this. This life is a roller coaster. Every emotion is the joy of the ride. We came here for this ride. Every feeling, every emotion is enjoyment. It is lovely. It is precious. Every feeling and sensation is precious. This is why the soul has come. It has taken this shape, it has taken this body to experience things, experience everything. Everything, every sensation, every feeling is welcome.

That's the game. That's the joy of the theme park. You can't sit on the roller coaster and cry that it's going too fast or you are upside down or you feel like vomiting. You sat on it yourself. Enjoy the ride!