Sati Savitri

In western fairy tales, the woman the princess is a helpless little wimp who gets into trouble, a Strong brave prince or Knight in Shining armour comes and saves her. They get married and live happily ever after! This portrays women as weak and men as strong, This makes who ever hears it feel like a woman needs a man in her life to save her. Sexist! fine!

In India we have an exactly opposite story - Savitri.
Her husband ( Satyavaan - but seriously Satyavaan who? ) was cursed to die young, in-spite of that Savitri married him. Then as expected, he died on the designated day, but Savitri was so powerful she chased Yama the God death himself  and got her husband back from the dead!  The western Prince just fought dragons, this Lady fought the ultimate villain death!

But Savitri is the epitome of Sexism, How Ironic is that!? Most feminists' blood boils at the mention of her name :-)  Isnt that funny? No Really! Savitri is sexist not a feminist as you would expect.

West has this type of sexism where woman is weak and man is strong and so he carries the womans bags, this has at least some kind of advantage.
India has a type of sexism where woman is not weak she is just lowly!  ha ha!  So she carries her husbands bag! There is absolutely no silver lining to this sexism.

So Savitri was just doing her duty, she is not a Hero for rescuing her husband. She is symbol of this kind of sexism which tells all women that its their ultimate duty to look after their husbands and nothing else and she shows the lengths to which a wife should go to achieve this. 
Can the Prince story be interpreted in the same way? It shows the lengths to which a man should go to please his beloved??  but it isnt is it?

It seems like its not the story that is important, Its how it is told.  You can take any story and squeeze out any moral out of it.  A woman is strong narrative can be used to oppress a woman or a woman is weak narrative can be used to oppress a woman. In fact not just women, men are as easily manipulated  by clever people by being glorified, thats a story for another day. Today may be we should think of how to make Savitri into feminist icon, a Hero  and not a door mat ;-) 

Shower scene

Oh yeah! Shower scenes in movies. ( Why do I feel like I have written it before? but it is not turning up in search? )
I was watching one of these old 80s movies on TV, Shower scene..Shower.. water ...steam... woman...boobs! *me rolls eyes*  steamy,  lechy scene, so common in these old movies, even when they are rated 12 .
That's when I realised! Oh my god! How long has it been since I have seen a woman in a shower scene! These days Its  always men isnt it? ( I am not complaining ;-) At all ;-P )Korean dramas,  Hollywood,  even Bollywood, 6 packs biceps men!  How things have changed and how we have come a long way.
It is womens empowerment in a way.  It shows the powers that be have realised that women have pockets too ( or purses! Grr ! thats another rant post ) Pleasing the women  brings in the bucks.
In the 80s the movies are so clearly a mans world,Women are there in the movies as support only and as enjoyment. Butt and Boob shots, upskirts galore!  They just dont seem to care for the women who are in front of the screen watching. The hero, even if he is so hot doesnot take his shirt off !!!

I remember clearly when the tides turned. I was there for it. It was the 90s. Lara Croft 2. I am in the theater, Shower scene, Same ...Shower .. water.. steam .. The theater is going crazy - waiting for wet and nude Angelina Jolie! I am rolling my eyes! These guys! ha! Then surprise!  Its Daniel Craig! Tada!   That was the moment, Turning point in history!  The theater was silent for a few seconds before they started booing! LOL! I was really Rolling on the floor laughing. Servers them right ! These Lecherous Bs :-))
Now. There is cheering when Hritick or Tiger are in the shower even by the guys! :-) Its a body builders world after all :-)
Times have changed so much for the better :-D

I am coming back

My friend ( western hence christian tradition brought up ) told me to not waste time on something and about life being short.
I said I am Hindu and I am coming back :-D His life is indeed short and he will be sitting there twiddling thumbs, while me will be having birth after birth all over the world, may be in other worlds too, and that too for eternity - the way my mediation is going I am not going to get Moksha anytime soon ;-)
He said immediatly how do I become Hindu :-D 

Reading my old posts I am feeling
Maturity is like weight :-P, It fluctuates :-P
It doesnot linearly keep going up with time unfortunately. some moments we are mature and then some we are not. Thats life.

want power is stronger than will power :)

( ah u knew it wouldn't rhyme? :-p)

I may not be a CEO
or a VP with 2 kids
(and I write horrid poems ;o)
but now I dont go so low
and I bounce up back fast! touch wood!
I have grown oh I have so grown
I m ready to open my wings
and fly really high
I m ready to open my heart
and go crazy n wild
I love me!
:-D 

joke :P

who was the forty-second president of U.S.A?
me wondering Was someone president of USA for just forty seconds?!! :-D

The answer BTW is William Jefferson Clinton. After 40 seconds I realise Oh!Its our own Bill Monica Clinton! :)
Brain running at all time record high speeds today :)

synchronocity 2

I was inspired by one black cat manifestation story, so I decide try this myself,  to manifest butterflies.... :-D
I am in a park so  its not very hard to see butter flies. so to make it more challenging I try a red butterfly.. I try to visualise it.. I find it a little hard.. so I visualise a big group of yellow butterflies for a while. Then I lie in the grass waiting  ;-P I see 2 butterflies flying far away...come close butterfly..not happening...... On the way back home, There is this girl holding out a poster for Natural history museum , Butterfly park with Orange red butterfly :-) I was expecting this kind of thing... Its common! When we are looking out for something we find it. ( I m going to that butterfly park BTW, Isnt it wonderful that when u want something, u are shown the path to it? :-)   :-P )
Just now I am watching Two and a half men episode with Charlie's mothers wedding. She is getting married to one Ted and Alan is the wedding planner. Alan spends the entire episode worrying about flowers and frozen butterflies which are supposed to come alive and fly off into the sunset as the bride and groom kiss.. But when the moment comes,  Berta  is trying to get a cardboard box full of still frozen butterflies to fly.. unfortunately and obviously they dont .. she offers to microwave them for a bit and try again...:-) Berta is Evil! Any way they were Yellow butterflies!!! LOL!
I didnt catch the butterfly reference untill this scene! Those guys up there have a sense of humour or what? I wouldnt ever imagine seeing butterflies in a two and a half men episode!! When I tried to manifest butterflies I never imagined they'd be 100 and dead ones!  LOL! Ive seen almost all episodes of 2 1/2 men! never seen one butterfly in them!!  LOL! :-) Tho later I did notice a butterfly pattern on the Shrink's silk shirt :-)
I expect miracles and things  manifest in such mundane ways. :-)
(Reminded me of monkey paw story which made ur wishes comes true in most morbid ways )

quote from sex and the city

Charlotte is gushing about how she met this guy and how it is fate and all that...

Miranda: It’s not fate… His light is on. That’s all.
Charlotte: What light?
Miranda: Men are like cabs. When they're available, their light goes on. They wake up one day and they decide they're ready to settle down, have babies, whatever. And they turn their light on. The next woman they pick up, boom, that's the one they'll marry. It’s not fate, it’s dumb luck.
Charlotte: I'm sorry, I refuse to believe that love is that random.
Miranda: Please, it's all about timing. You gotta ge t'em when their light's on.
Carrie: Most men I meet are flashing yellows.
Miranda: Or off-duty... They can drive around for years picking up women and not be available.
Carrie: Then they really shouldn't be allowed to get behind the wheel.
Miranda: Most men don’t stay lit long before they take the plunge versus most women who have been lit pretty much since birth.

so true! :D that was just awesome!

what is the height of ego...

When you ask a person to think of a number and he thinks of i ( square root of -1) :-) :-) :-)

jab mein chota baccha tha...

When I was a kid I hated Volkeswagon beetle - The old 1960;'s one. There were quite a few of these in Bangalore then. I used to call it Jeerunde car :-) we used to have this Jeerunde attacks in rainy season I think :-) Jeerunde = beetle ! :D I din even know that it was called beetle then !

When I was a kid I thought there were only 3 religions Hindu Muslim Christian. When I heard of Jews I was really confused - What are they ? Type of Christians? . I couldnt understand for a long time that they were different religion. Buddhist and Jain and Sikh I thought were like castes or sects in Hinduism like Lingayat may be.. Always questioned What were Europeans before they were ?Christians? it is only 2000 years since Christians have existed..

I always thought Hindu then Islam then Christian religion came into picture, I was really surprised that Islam was (invented? started? Whatevered) in 600 AD.

When I was a kid I thought it was more civilized to drink tea from saucer than the cup! LOL. I used to drink tea,coffee from Saucer when I went to others houses :-) I saw it in movie where Dharmendra wearing suit goes to heroines house and drinks in saucer :-) My inspiration - untill one day my dad made fun of Laalu for drinking from the saucer

When I was a kid I thought boy friends and girl friends were fictional, They existed only in movies... dont ask! :D

reminds me of...

Jab mein Chota baccha tha,

Pant mein susu kar ta tha..

Mere chori pakdi jaati,

Ghar mein tha Bajaj :P

I saw this silly feather today, It was flying. It didn’t know that it had fallen off the pigeon already and that it cant fly J

Reminded me of Tom and Jerry who keep on running even when the ground runs out until they realise that there is no more ground…

I caught it.. and now I m guilty that I put an end to its flying.. I tried to get it flying again but it dropped down to the ground .. poor feather.

haiku :D

cloudy

sunny

cloudy

hide and seek!

:P

Basho - please dont turn in ur grave :D

http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2011/02/10/i-shall-wear-purple/

Love this ... words from in my heart..

I have had plans like this all my life to be a wicked granma.. .dreams are always nice in the future...even dreams of growing old..

I want to be a terror granma an obnoxious granma outrageous granma silly granma....:) hehe..

...some how those thoughts turn around and make me sad...:-(

It took like 5 minutes for her point to hit home and it hurts :) It s bitter sweet how this makes me feel...I feel happy to remember those dreams of carefree old age.. but when I think of an old woman wearing a red hat and purple dress its making me sad..I m feeling sad for her :-(

Deeponomics

Frekonomics

Frekonimics says that reduction of crime rate in 1990’s in US was directly related to abolishing the anti abortion law in 1970.. so all those guys who would have been born in 1970s whould would cause trouble in 1990s were well not born at all so no crime…

Deeponomics

In a developed(??Oh humm Ill start liking it here some day) country like UK there are like 1% software engineer then Why are there so many girl software engineers(20%?) in a very traditional developing country like India..( which btw still practices female feotiscide)

In 1980s – ordinary Indian girls weren’t encouraged to study too much.. u see u wont get a groom who is more educated than u and then we will have to give a lot of dowry for a highly educated groom.

So essential skills for a girl were good cooking cleaning maintain house and knowledge of all traditions and etiquettes - all well and very nice..

Goal in life for a girls parents get my daughter married. ashte…

Then in mid 1990s a new breed of boys (and a few girls but this story is not about them :P) started emerging.. The software engineers, they would go on to change the face of India :P( whatever) What characterised this breed was sophistication, intelligence, suaveness – ah blah.. no one cares for all that.. but they had money… ah! now u are listening... loads and loads of it.. much more than any ordinary middle class man has ever seen in his life time… obviously they were THE prized catch in the marriage market… and so the dainty damsels were lined up in front of these and they had their pick.. but lo and behold what happens..

This new breed u would think had enough money to lead 2 families happily would look for homely girls but no.. money attacts money they say or for what ever other reasons.. the software engineer grooms wanted software engieneer brides to get married to! Not BA in Music, not Home science graduate not BCom but B.E. comp sci BE Electronics!!!

WHAT?

The whole of the Marriage market was shaken… what was this? What was happening.. 20 years of grooming down the drain? having studied the market they had perfected their product but.. the market had changed overnight!!!

Any capitalistic economy the suppy indeed catches up fast with the demand, and so this very developed and stable market indeed recovered and fast… huge queues were formed and MCA collegues started running to the full. BA Music + MCA = BE comp Sci.. = job at Infosys = SE groom! Yupiee!!

BA music, history, homesciecne forms were withdrawn and B E comp sci.. yeah those forms were taken in..cooking and baking classes bandh, maths and science tutuion shuru..

And with in a matter of half a decade.. the number of girl students in any Engineering class went up from 10 % to 50% !!

This number varies along with the recession cycle too.. but has stabilized over the ages

And this is how a very traditional country like India breeds the best of the Lady engieneers in the world!

(based on a true statistics- the author personally knows a Bsc homescience who got forms for MCA and would have almost joined , if not for having found a bank manager groom in the mean time.

Edit: Now happily married with 2 kids :P everyone wants to know the endings of stories :P)

free phone

Trying to post this from my e-mail! J Let see how this goes..

 

Nick Vujicic – the guy with no hand no legs and NO LIMITS.  He is an awesome guy allright. The way he is living his life and his attitude is just amazing. Put me to shame. It is very obvious his religion and his church has played a very major role in him and his parents being able to cope with the situation . It must have been very ( unimaginably) difficult – the support that their religion and community has given them is priceless.. so it is understandable that there is a bit of evangelism in the book- I knew this. I decided to read the book anyway but my poor impressionable brain hehe! .. That night  - my mum – we got her converted to Christianity, because we were getting I-phone free.. LOL .. and now she became so fanatical- actually she was more like enthusiastic than fanatical.. any way that was too enthu for all of us and it was unbearable and so we want to convert her back ok.. but its not allowed itseems. So we had to take this up with – ahem- GOD !! I had to take this roller coaster ride to get to his kingdom- looked like a red fort ..  The God territory looked very similar to grand canyon :D and the roller coaster was really scary.. and long winded and after that I think we all forgot about what we wanted with all this..  Dreams!!! Crazy! J

dream diaries

Funny - trying to remember dreams. people said write them down.

From when I ve started to think Ill write them down, Ive started dreaming after every dream that I wrote them down! :D :P :P :P Shame on me! :D

embarassing moment part 3

dont leave foot prints when u are snooping around on the net :-$

Dream

Rachel and George Clooney went to a premier... As usuall Rachel is fussy - she says we are not in black and white.. u sit on the mens side and Ill sit in the womens...as soon as they enter.. she gets all flustered.. O O how do I know which side is women and which side is men... ( but hello!!! U can SEE the people sitting!:)) too late...they are ushered away and Rachel is sitting awkwardly with some boring (serious) men and George is being wooed by some 20 women.. :D

too much friends? BTW George Clooney and Rachel - awesome couple. :) He was lookin really awesome in black suit with thin fitting trousers.

Insistent "BLA BLA BLA BLA BLA..."

I am going to do meditation ... about to reply BLA BLA BLA.. ...bla...

Oh well! cant do that..meditation will get spoilt..

I heard myself mutter..

OKay GOD!! PLEASE BLESS HIM ...He is unwise...God - please give him some good sense...

and make it FAST!!!!?!!? :) hahaha!!

That cracked me up! really? make it fast? :D :)

There are two voices in my head- really! and one of them sometimes makes fun of the other ! :P