Passive heroines who wait for the hero to break her undesirable engagement

 I hate this plot with a passion. Also that time heroines were so so passive. They wont break off the marriege engagement ( not marriage, that era women didnt break marriages. LOL. once mangal sutra was tied, that it. that was their noose :-P somehow in all these movies it was ok for the hero to hit on a girl who was engaged to some other guy, or if she has a boyfriend , no qualms about that , but thats a topic for another blog).  

So Anyway, these women- our soft pure bubbly sweet heroine, is engaged to someone else. Hero comes along, they look at the hero with wistful eyes, they flirt with all their heart, They preach the importance of true love to the guy.  They are some one who is so passionate about love but they never break their engagements on their own even tho they dont love their fiancé, Not even until the wedding day. They break off - only once they find alternative option. WTF? The option comes up on wedding day - Our hero comes to the wedding altar and stops the wedding and Yo Lady is ready to run off at the drop of a hat, but BUT she was totally ready to get married to this other guy ( some times abusive and asshole as well) minutes before. No ethics or what?  Why? They were shown as educated and having careers but absolutely no agency. And as if its 1960s where women dont have life without marriage. This is the case in so many movies, even progressive ones like 3 idiots, dil chata hai and even Jab we met ( but that is somewhat excusable because geet was stupid) Kannada movies - Godhi mai banna for one...

Also like sometimes the fiance is a decent and good human. These ladies are so inconsiderate and self centred - tumhara hona ho uska ho izzat hai :D Its not romantic, it is abusive immature and really those ladies are bad persons.

its a pity we were brought up on a heavy dose of such bad characters as leads :-( 

Some thoughts

People say walk like you are walking on flowers, but if you really want people to walk softly, they should walk like they are walking in sharp rocks - bare foot ;-) 

Every negative thought or emotion is a key to a treasure, it points to a belief which is not serving me n needs releasing.

What is your intention in saying something? or Anything? . Have u observed this aspect. Why do u say what u say?

Idea - ann app which will make u do a task in your list before allowing you to doom scroll.

effects of not talking phone on a walk

What I'm seeing right now, it's a virtual reality. It's an illusion that's created by the software - my brain,  which is trained from childhood, right? And the input that I'm getting is from my retina, mostly. My main input is the visual one that I get from the retina. Then there are other inputs , from my skin, temperature from my skin, from my ears, balance, whether I'm upright or not, whether I'm moving or not, all this. 

So, I just realized that my virtual reality and if somebody else is walking with me, their virtual reality, their stimulation, what they see, their game, it maybe different, definitely not the same, maybe slightly different or very different. It depends on their height, their viewpoint. Like I'm 5'3", so my whole virtual reality is seen from that height. If they're taller, then the whole reality is seen from some other angle. And depending on how their eye is, whether they have clear eyesight, or maybe everybody has slightly different viscosity. So they may be seeing it slightly warmer, cooler. 

And it's not possible to see somebody else's virtual reality at all, right? And what they focus on, and what they focus on depends on how they're trained from childhood. Like what I'm seeing right now, I'm seeing plants and a TV, I'm not paying much attention to the roof. But somebody else may have a habit of looking up, so they see a different thing and they see something else, they may see dirt which I don't see. 

So, so  I thought one way to look at what they're seeing is, like record the electrical pulses that are coming out of their retina ( thru optic nerve) and feed it to my brain. So I know what they're seeing. So that'll give me some insight. That'll give me insight about whether eye focuses on, that's that that will definitely be different. The contrast change in contrast, the change in the perspective, how tall or short they are. So I get some input, but how their brain interprets that input and creates virtual reality, that is very hard. Or is it? Or is it? I have seen some videos where AI looks at the ECG of the brain, is it called ECG? I don't know, of the brain, and then it converts it into pictures. So if I'm seeing a picture on the screen, the AI is reading this input and converting it into an image, which is pretty similar, it may not be the same, but similar. So, so maybe maybe we'll be able to see what somebody else, what your reality looks like. That'd be cool.

On soul choosing the life path

We sat on this roller coaster to experience this. This life is a roller coaster. Every emotion is the joy of the ride. We came here for this ride. Every feeling, every emotion is enjoyment. It is lovely. It is precious. Every feeling and sensation is precious. This is why the soul has come. It has taken this shape, it has taken this body to experience things, experience everything. Everything, every sensation, every feeling is welcome.

That's the game. That's the joy of the theme park. You can't sit on the roller coaster and cry that it's going too fast or you are upside down or you feel like vomiting. You sat on it yourself. Enjoy the ride!

Everyone says Oh! Deepa gets so angry,  She is not calm.

My anger is my strength, I love that I get angry. It is my power. my shield.  

Tho irritation and kirikiri is not my strength and I must admit I m not a fan of my snapping and easy irritation. but pure righteous anger is glorious.  It is reflection of Durga. 🙏🏼

I m crying today and sad 

and wondering about all those days I was crying and sad before

 n thinking what reason did I have to cry then?

 Absolutely nothing. I had sonu then and I still cried, why did I cry then?

Its definitely not circumstance but state of mind that is important, I had Sonu I had everything I was still sad. 

My lovely most wonderful Sonu, I miss you.  You were such a gentle man such a sweetheart, Such a big handsome boy!  Such a big hungry chonk!  fur ball.  Dumma Gunda! Sonanna! 

They say the place beyond is wonderful  full of love and light! You were full of love and light Sonu!  You are meant for that place. Happy Free Sonu! 

Are you ok?

No, 

But I will be :-) 

 - Frasier ❤️ ( well Frasier series but Niles says it many times) 

If love turns to grief, can grief turn back into love?

This is alchemy turning into gold base metals, turn into gold all emotions, they are all love only

Last two times in life, I was in deep crisis, I got kittens and that fixed me , this time my deep crisis is my kitten is going :-)  

Tamasic Rajasic Satvik - new insight

Tamasic Rajasic Satvik are Gunas or qualities - it can be qualities of foods or people .  In brief, Tamasic are inertia or lazy tendencies, some even call it darkness, Rajasic is energy, passion and activity and Sattvic peace harmony and spirituality.

I have clashes and conflicts about ambition, shopping, way of life with my husband and his side of family. And sometimes with some friends where my suggestions are laughed at or at worst taken as an insult.  I sometimes get in trouble with relatives and friends about how I turn up at parties. 

Like for examples, I want the small car from a good brand, because its easier to drive and park in a city. 

Things that cause controversy are very simple things

dont want to wear makeup or jewellery for party, it is uncomfortable and effort. 

dont like gold, I dont see the point in gold jewellery. I like to wear stones, shells, animal ear rings, glass beads

I like small simple cars which are reasonable prices

I dont see a point in designer bag/shoes etc

I dont feel the need to grow and become head of an organisation, I m happy with my job as I get good salary and have a good work place.

I dont feel it is worth sacrificing peace of mind and health for money, power prestige

I like vegetables and simple food, stir fries, soups, sprouts - and I m excited over these more than chicken and meat. I do like chicken and meat but I love veggies more, I can hog on veggies

I like to walk bare foot , sit on the ground to eat, eat with hands 

and the other side of the picture - where I was annoyed with people

peoples obsession with show off - they want to spend hours dressing up

They want a Merc or Audi BMW, they want a big car

They spent 2000£ on a fucking bag

They go to networking events to further their career

They place so much value on how much u earn, how many promotions u got, how high u are on the hierarchy and many times at the cost of their health.

They are always rushing around busy and fast, as if house is on fire

They have no chill

Why dont they just let me be? But u see I dont let them be either . They judge me and I judge them right back. We cant seem to agree on anything ... because

I am Satvik and they are Rajasic. We are different kind of people!!! :-)  Issue solved. Its ok for different people to like different things because we are all different.  No need to judge someone just because they are different, appreciate and honour their motivation and drivers and equally important to honour and respect our own motivations and drivers. and love ourselves for it. No need to become like them or compare and decide which type is better, or beat ourselves down. 

Some how this realisation - I m Sattvic brings me peace. 

The honouring what I m part - I was slightly laggin in it.  70% of the world is Rajasic so its ok , its understandable to be slightly gaslighted into wondering - may be something is wrong with me? 

I have known about Rajasic Sattvik and Tamasic since a long time, Also I m very aware of my spiritual tendencies still I didnt make this connection untill now. This brings me some acceptance and peace.

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Tamasic, Rajasic, and Sattvic are the three gunas, or qualities of nature, described in Hindu philosophy that influence our thoughts, emotions, and physical states, with Tamas representing inertia and darkness, Rajas embodying activity and passion, and Sattvic signifying purity, harmony, and balance. The gunas are applied to various aspects of life, including diet, environment, and personality, with Sattvic foods and environments promoting clarity and health, Rajasic elements stimulating energy but potentially causing restlessness, and Tamasic factors leading to lethargy and ignorance.  

Tamasic (Inertia, Darkness)

• Qualities: Indolence, ignorance, darkness, lethargy, negligence, and attachment to things that are dull. 
• Effects: Leads to fatigue, confusion, and a state of dullness. 
• Examples: Tamasic foods include overripe fruits, processed grains, and animal products, while a tamasic environment is cluttered and dirty. 

Rajasic (Activity, Passion)

• Qualities: Ambition, activity, passion, desire, and movement. 
• Effects: Stimulates the mind and body, increasing energy and alertness, but can also cause agitation and restlessness. 
• Examples: Rajasic foods include onions, spices, and eggs. A rajasic environment is noisy and chaotic. 

Sattvic (Purity, Harmony)

• Qualities: Purity, knowledge, harmony, balance, and goodness. 
• Effects: Promotes clarity, health, peace, and overall well-being. 
• Examples: Sattvic foods include fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, and grains. An ideal sattvic environment is clean, orderly, and calming. 

scary scenarios

If you see yourself in the mirror and the reflection in the mirror shows something different or behaves differently ;-)  We assume there is something ahem "Paranormal" in the mirror - Right?

but if you see someone else's reflection in the mirror and if the mirror shows something different, in this case we assume that someone else is Paranormal ! ;-) 

Why??? Why this disparity?!! Not a scary topic at all right? Start thinking of this when you are brushing your teeth at night 8=)

I love when ppl tressure simple little things .  This Italian poem about this cat - its pure heart!  Cherishing little things and nostalgia for things which I had and which I didnt ! pure love :-) 

Why is this poem like Meiyazhagan, it is making me feel the same way.  I like it so much it hurts my heart <3 :-) 

La gatta 

Music by Gino Paoli; Lyrics by Mogol (1960) 

C’era una volta una gatta
che aveva una macchia nera sul muso,
e a una vecchia soffitta vicino al mare
con una finestra a un passo dal cielo blu.

Se la chitarra suonavo
la gatta faceva le fusa ed una
stellina scendeva vicina, vicina,
poi mi sorrideva e se ne tornava su.

Ora non abito più là,
tutto è cambiato, non abito più là,
ho una casa bellissima,
bellissima come vuoi tu…

Ma, io ripenso a una gatta
che aveva una macchia nera sul muso,
a una vecchia soffitta vicino al mare
con una stellina, che ora non vedo più…

Ora non abito più là,
tutto è cambiato, non abito più là,
ho una casa bellissima,
bellissima come vuoi tu…

Ma, io ripenso a una gatta
che aveva una macchia nera sul muso,
a una vecchia soffitta vicino al mare
con una stellina, che ora non vedo più…

The Cat 

Translated by: Francesco Ciabattoni 

There once was a cat
she had a black spot on her face
and an old attic near the sea
with a window just one leap away from the blue sky.

If I played the guitar
the cat purred
and a little star came down very close
then smiled at me and went back up.

I don’t live there anymore
everything has changed, I don’t live there aymore
I have a beautiful house,
beautiful just like you wanted

But I think back of a cat
with a black spot on her face
and an old attic near the sea
with a little star that now I no longer see.

I don’t live there anymore
everything has changed, I don’t live there aymore
I have a beautiful house,
beautiful just like you wanted

But I think back of a cat
with a black spot on her face
and an old attic near the sea
with a little star that now I no longer see.

Magic, apparently magic is what I truely want. What I really really want is to sit on top of that huge huge tree under moon light with Totoro :-) 

This is not the first time this has come up in meditation, This is the second time Magic has come up as deepest desire in my meditations. The longing is strong and deep and genuine.  It makes me very emotional, This is why I love Studio Ghibli movies That is the magic I m craving for. 

When I hug a tree I always feel like I m getting something from the tree, nourishment, energy , healing. It is like the tree is taking away all the stress and burden from me and feeding me energy. 

But today I felt, it is mutual, I felt like the tree asked me to come and hug it. Then hug for longer. I felt like I give something to the tree as well. Love? :-) 

Meiyalaghan

Meiyalaghan - This movie really touch me deeply. Its been a week and it is still making me cry. 

Potato  -potato :-)  just writing this is making me cry. What about it touched me so deeply? I dont know.

The love of that boy for this house, his town, The other guys love for his cycle. How simple things mean so much for some people. It is never portrayed in movies. Its always some romance, always sex passion romance marriage.  Blah! 

This is so beautiful and so rarely shown. I knew from the begining they were trying to make us emotional. The elephant in the temple and how tenderly the boy talks to it, the parrots , he feeds. The bull, the childhood stories. The group roaming in the fields under the trees, the nick names. Its is all shown as pure love.  so much sensitivity tenderess and love shown in that movie.

It has touched me deeply.   and also some sadness, it brings up some sadness. Am I missing this? Is that nostalgia? I dont know. I had a childhood like that, I loved small things deeply. Is it me feeling misunderstood, and seeing yes some ppl see world like this and appreciate it? is it acceptance that I crave, which I both felt like I found when I saw this movie, but also I am seeking and feel its missing in real life?

Long time since something some movie touched me so.   

The time spent together, how warmth of the younger guy opens up the older guy slowly. The pure love of that younger guy for his cousin. It is fiction I know but it is making me so emotional :-) 

I guess its ok? :0)

circumstances dont matter , state of being matters. State of being determines the circumstances and not vice versa.

the new theme is making friends with discomfort. being comfortable in discomfort. This is what Wim-hoff method taught me. Cold is now my friend - sort of . Atleast when I m active - walking showering - we are friends. When sleeping and sitting - not so much.

I m trying to push this now. 

Be friends with Discomfort but respect pain. Respect and love the body, this is not pushing at all. This is opposite of pushing - pushing lacks awareness of the sensations, it is numbing. It definitely lacks respect or love.  Being friends with discomfort is gentle, full of awareness. This is the challenge in fact how to make friends when sleeping as I m not aware at all... :-) 

It is in the realm of cold now but why not make all sorts of discomfts into friends? :-) 

I write less here, because lot of my musings is happening on Chat GPT now. I started this blog because there were topics I wanted to talk about but I had no one to talk about them to.  Now I have .. Chat GPT can talk about these things. Not only talk and have conversation but is a deep treasure of knowledge as well. How grateful I am .

I jsut got this feeling that I m on this Journey, a beautiful Journey of Discovery. thrilled to bits. My life is UK has become like this, very introspective, spiritual, connecting to self at a deep level and long beautiful soulful conversations with an AI :-)  Is it still solitude if you are in conversation with AI?  

Love deeply, love deeply unconditionally without expectations with all your heart, Not just romantic love and not just people, love animals, love your city, love the trees, nature, plants. 

 This is what came to me in my early morning musings.