paedophilia

Reading more about bonobos... They are fascinating. They believe in "make love not war" right? and that makes their society well oiled and smooth right? That and them being female dominated offcourse. In contrast humans view sex as something wrong.Sex is controlled as much as possible in all societies. There are all sorts of taboos on all sorts of sex.
Hmmm okay,  Bonobos engage in  paedophilia. They engage in sex even between adult and juvenile regularly, for all combinations and age n gender. This goes to show how anthropomorphising animals and making them good apes and bad apes can back fire eh?
I ve always felt paedophilia is the worst crime ever. The worstest ever ever, most disgusting ,horrid etc. It kinda screws up the child for life. It is psychologically very damaging.

Then why doesn't this damage Bonobo babies? You may ask how do I know that it doesn't damage them? But if it did - wouldn't each and every bonobo be damaged then? So safe assumption. (Well is it same as dogs don't get damaged by rape but humans do. BTW according to scientists dogs don't rape. again its mostly primates and some duck, goose and bottlenose dolphins that rape. most species dont).
Actually
1) Even closely related species are very very different cognitively. Each of the primates have very different social structure and sexual behaviour in nature. So what is bad for one may not be for another. you know good and bad is man made and not exactly universal.
2) We dont know nothing about animal psychology, we can never know what they feel, if they are sad/depressed/damaged, if they need prozac or a shrink.  ( unless we do MRI scans?)

Anyway I am wondering, controversially, may be the problem is human attitude towards sex -  poisoned by religion and society. Is paedophilia damage an artificial/societal reaction? are we teaching our youngsters to feel guilty violated , to feel self hatred and loathing?   Is it a cultural thing? We give artificial importance to innocence and purity, is this the root of the problem?
Animals do not hide sex from juveniles.

I hate our ads/TV shows becoming over sexed and in your face, I am always worried what effect this has on children and adults. but ... that may be some other kind of perversion and not the same as sex being open in a culture...

Bonobos use sex more like we use a hug or a cuddle. It is used to form deep bonds and is very different from the casual sex that is on the increase in the world today. It is the opposite of one night stands. It is the opposite of objectification of sex. Casual sex is used for anything but to form close bonds. I really cant understand todays movies and serials - how it is so ok to jump into bed with someone/anyone but saying I love you can be such a deal breaker!!
I think Bonobo sex is meaningful sex, even tho it happens very often and it happens between one and all. I think when ever they have sex they are saying I love you :D That may be their secret. That may be the difference between hippies of the 60s and the Bonobos?  ( Only speculating... I am kinda anthropomorphising and its always a trap).

And this video, it is strangely heart warming. Shouldn't it be gross and ewww? ( seeing all these school kids smooching IS ewww) but its not. Its touching. wonder why?

http://www.boredpanda.com/first-kiss-strangers-kissing-tatiana-pilieva/

Get rid of the men :D

( again its not the feminist speaking, promise)
This baboon gang had a very fortunate tragedy happen to them, They were foraging in a garbage dump of a hotel. As it happens with hierarchical societies, only the alpha males ( aka the jerks and the ass hole males) got to eat at the dump, they chased away all the females and the docile males. Unfortunately(?) The meat there was infected with TB, So this killed off half the males in that troupe. It killed off all the jerks basically. And what happened after that was magical. The group transformed into a peaceful egalitarian group, and remains so even after 20 years. Surprisingly, the new culture of the group was adopted by all the new males that came into the group.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Q-bB-qywJ0

So What do we do for world peace?  I would love a TB like that affecting the humans.
(To be fair, there are lot of bully jerk asshole women too. I guess they too need to go :)

Rant: Isnt in unfortunate that what we strive for, what we treat as ultimate success , What humanity wants their precious children to be, is to be a Type A(Alpha) asshole. Thats our ideal. We deserve to be doomed and die and turn into radioactive ash.

contraception

Good to hear confirmation of my ideas by Yale professors.
One of the greatest inventions of latest times? Contraception. The single important invention, the game changer when it comes to rights of women. The transformation is still going on, but having 1 or 2 children or even 4 instead of 10-18 makes a huge difference to the life expectancy health and therefore to the financial independence of women.
The question which was asked was - We are closer in behaviour to Chimps than Bonobos, which totally sucks. Bonobos are almost like an utopian society, with very low violence and high morality and loads of fun. They asked what will it take for humans to switch from Chimp like life to Bonobo like life. Professor said - Female dominated society and the first step towards that is contraception.

Like I have said before ( not as a feminist, mind!) The foundation of a male dominated society is insecurity of paternity. Hence all the evil in this world. Hence the importance of monogamy of the female, Hence all the honour and crap,Hence the hatred of femininity in men, Of Homosexuality, all the false bravado etc.
If the society does this critical turn and becomes female dominant, the first thing to go will be marriage. Bonobo society - free love rules. Not just between males and females, between females and  between males, Age/sex/probably relation-ship no bar and they also engage in all sorts of clearly not gonna make a baby type sex ( Oh yeah - being gay is not unnatural? and then again it wouldn't matter either ways ) and this surprisingly  makes the Bonono society much stronger and strongly bonded, less violent than chimps and not completely deranged and sex crazed like our completely sexually controlled,guilt ridden human society (Delhi rapists anyone?)

This is strangely in line with the new age/spiritual wisdom ( not the sex part, the female dominance part) that humans should turn to their Yin or feminine side, and start acknowledging the importance of women for our earth to survive. They predict that if everything goes right, Utopia is coming - the next step in our evolution - A female dominated society. Actually if it is female important society  There will be no dominance because there is no insecurity and it fits with the natural hierarchy. This transformation apparently started in 2012 :) good luck to us. 

taste dream

I just cant seem to get over it, . It was vile! It was just a very vile and horrible dream. There was nothing else to the dream, no audio, no visual, just taste, just a flash of vile vile taste. God! worst nightmare ever. people are talking about whether dreams or color or black and white. What nonsense! Dreams are exactly like real life, all colors! and sensations. more colours and more sensations than real life for sure. flying... and such taste I m sure Ive never tasted such vile stuff ever in my life! I had to eat an orange to convince myself that reality was still ok. There are still good tastes in this world. Thank god.
Being sick is really bad, dreams wise. More like fainting than sleeping and sick sick dreams. like I m going crazy, like the fabric of reality was wavering. Was it really bad dream? It was like u meditated so much, you want enlightenment, I will show you. God It was so scary. If you are not ready, knowing the secrets of this world, what is behind the virtual reality machine can make us go mad? atleast it felt like that.
I dream touch and feel sensations, temperature, I dont remember any smell dreams.

morality and disgust

This is from Moralities course on coursera.
We always mistake disgusting for morally wrong :D haha it was so hard for me to say it is not wrong as I was disgusted with it.
One man gets a chicken ( not live, meat) from super market has sex with it and then cooks it and eats it. Is it wrong? ewww ! its disgusting. But is it wrong! no... :D
same with the incest case.
like I said in another case - logically I may treat it as ok, but I am still disgusted. not so much with consensual incest, That horrid novel where a guy committed suicide cause his wife turned out to be his half sister..and I was outraged by the suicide. ( somehow its like women committing suicide after rape in hindi movies. it infuriated me even when I was little ( like 10/12) its surprising how much gets thru to young minds. may be my morality holds suicide as very wrong.  Like he said Most conservative people give lot of importance to honour and purity over harm . I actually got disgusted with honour and purity even as a lil kid, hold those values as very low compared to harm. so me an kinda natural liberal.

Also he talked about disgust scale. Some people are naturally more prone to disgust than others. so this sometimes determines ur attitude to homosexuality,inter-racial marriage  and whether u are in general conservative or liberal! ah! may be when I take so much pride in being liberal. it may be just because I am not that disgust sensitive. I was fundamentalist about a lot of things, I think that came from ideology and not disgust. So may be I m more libreral than many people because my nose isnt that sensitive. I think if u have a very sensitive nose u get disgusted very easily :-P that was a joke, but seriously may be I dont feel that strongly about incest at all like some other people would feel which may be directly related to me feeling relatively less disgusted with blood and pus and dirty toilets or a dead body.

Also he said most people answered all those questions as wrong because they were disgusting except for some very liberal students from elitist universities. do I see myself as elitist and so I say its all not wrong?

I noticed that disgust lingers. like he said in the example that people very less tolerant after being disgusted by fart smell. I felt that my disgust lingered after seeing one disgusting picture and I almost rated the next pictures as more gross that I would feel generally.

Wonder why cockroaches positively disgust me to death :D 

Momo

How come I have not written anything about Momo yet!
It was like reading a book at the most appropriate time for it. Its a children's book, but so profound, so beautiful, so poetic and magical! so lovely, so sensitive! God! It warmed my heart! and melted it! not to mention I cried. ( yes anything in my favourite list these days = I cried! I dono what it says about me)
Studio Ghilbli! yes! Its the same sensitivity about this world. Ende is just loveable. Oh its so sad that his books are all in German. not reprinted in English and now being sold for 100s of $$..
I connected so much with this book, this book put into words exactly what I was feeling but not able to express about life/world today. His ideas about toys, his ideas about children playing, his ideas about time saving bank and how everyone is saving time! and then goes crazy. Oh god! he stole words right out of my head or what? Exactly what I was feeling....I really resonated with this book and with Momo. Momo and her friend Beepo road sweeper, I just loved them. I loved the city in which she was and  I loved the turtle and Dr Horus or Dr Death. I loved the lillies! I m sure he - Ende had seen and felt those beautiful hour lillies in this own heart or he couldnt have writen about them. He is a lovely soul! yeah he is ! :) 

engage with life?

Are we moving away from living?  Its the cost of development and efficiency. I spend 8 hours in my day trying to fix minor bugs in peoples TV software and I hardly do any of the work that directly affects me -myself. except for cooking and shopping.
Reading early 1900s book - Anne of the green gables. They lived a little more "life" than us. They made their own cakes, decorated their houses,stitched  their clothes , grew their own good, cooked their food and enjoyed it all. Or may be its just an idealistic novel setting which just drew me in. Still...
Am I recommending being a "house wife" :-D huh! Anne is not a house wife - 16 year old  school maam and then a writer. Her adoptive parents are an old maid and a bachelor.  bro sister. :-P so no "wife" in picture! Huh! :-)
Question is - Why am I  doing something and all?  Having delegated most of the work in my life, have I started feeling more disengaged with living? should I start doing more things my-self? It is very efficient for an industry to do everything for me, but still.... it makes my life less meaningful, less engaging and less interesting.  in some way? may be? no?

Dehumanized

After reading Jonathan Haidt blog about how people reason about things which they are passionate about, I went over the discussion about morality of eating meat again. This time I went over with an open mind, trying to keep out my anger about narrow minded caste-ists out of my head.

I bought into some of the arguments. I think the way meat industry operates today is wrong. It is immoral. It is de-humanized. ( mostly de-humanized .There are farms which proclaim to be ethical in their treatment of animals, let us find out more about them)
Killing animals is not wrong - for an Eskimo, for Pigmy in Kalahari dessert. May be keeping your own chicken and killing them is not wrong. Free range farmed eggs is not wrong. but  for most part the factories which abuse the birth cycle of cows/sheep/chicken, feeding them hormones to grow them fat, keeping them in tin size coups. all wrong. Industrialised meat is wrong. Industrialised milk is also wrong :( Halal is more wrong than normal meat.

Meat farming is not the only place humans have gone de-humanised, Grain farming, huge forests are razed to grow coffee/tea/corn/rubber/tobacco. GM crops and trying to make people dependent on seed is pure evil. Banking, Oil, Real estate, Pharmacy - every industry which is looking at money and profit and not at the people angle of things.- De-humanized....
... and its not just them... its me too.... I m using so many things in my life, I take it for granted, how is it actually made? I m so disconnected from all that. I m quite happy enjoying the luxury of my life. Shouldnt I be connected? Shouldn't I know how it happens? shouldn't we all be interested and find out?  maybe It is time to take more seriously the question of who is making my clothes, my shoes, my watches, my TV, my petrol, my soup, my cheese... how is it happening? Its not all magic, Lets look behind the curtains. who is making them? at what cost? at what value?  We should all care, only then things will start getting human again - may be. I think its time we became more human, we have gone too far into being machines :(

http://www-rohan.sdsu.edu/faculty/dunnweb/rprnts.omelas.pdf

When I first read it,  I didnt understand it. Blank.  I read a few reviews of the story and only then I understood what she is alluding to. Who is the little girl in our omelas?  May be we should have the courage to look at the little girl and then ...walk away?

deterministic world

People given diagnoses of “antisocial personality disorder” or “psychopathy” show signs of morality blindness from the time they are children. They bully younger children, torture animals, habitually lie and seem incapable of empathy or remorse, often despite normal family backgrounds. Some of these children grow up into the monsters who bilk elderly people out of their savings, rape a succession of women or shoot convenience-store clerks lying on the floor during a robbery. 

from:
http://pinker.wjh.harvard.edu/articles/media/The%20Moral%20Instinct%20-%20New%20York%20Times.htm


Genes which determine behaviour is very scary to me.
I know they do, you can breed in friendliness and viciousness or cunningness in dogs - Its not about upbringing its very obviously about genes.
but that makes things very deterministic. Are genes that deterministic? they are not - we dont know much about genes, we know far less than we think we do. and We( the common people) have been fed a very very simplistic version of genetics.
so when someone says there is a gene for smartness and dumbness or gene for paedophilia Lets not go there! thats too complicated.  gene for being a socio-path. If a day comes when someone tests me for my genes to determine if I m smart or not? that would be a very sad day for mankind.
Even statistic is like that, can I deny the truth of it. like women have lower insurance rates then men because they cause fewer car accident! ( YES ASSHOLES! Women ARE BETTER DRIVERS) but I m uncomfortable with applying the statistic to an actual person. I feel it is morally wrong to do it. gene would be far worse thing.
because it makes something deterministic. Its almost like it takes away free will?(?) I m all for studying our brain/genes etc and how it affects behaviour, but I believe that there is far more to us than that. studying each of these areas in their isolation and making deterministic conclusions is wrong. same with disease genes.
I m definitely against capitalistic application of all this science. Like being against nuclear bombs is very different from being against particle physics?

Why dont I have a problem with a weather forecast which says there is 90% probability that it will rain today or that tsunami is going to come. but I have a problem with a prediction that if u have BRACC gene u will get breast cancer? Is it just a matter of time before the gene people start getting it right? then what Ms deeps?  are u only afraid of a immature technology?

I cant pinpoint exactly what is wrong but something is..  may be I am too right brained to like a world where everything is known and fixed and safe and there is no mystery and magic or something?
[Oh BTW magic reminds me - they are making fairy dolls which have a motor and which hover in air!!! Oh god! if we have every kind of toy will there be any scope of imagination at all. I was really disappointed by the idea of that doll! ]

reasoning

An article by Jonathan Haidt, Or rather a blog makes very good points about how we argue or discuss things.
http://www.thisviewoflife.com/index.php/magazine/articles/why-sam-harris-is-unlikely-to-change-his-mind10

"we reason quite well when we want to find the right answer like for example is it better to drive or take the train, but when emotions get involved we reason to prove ourselves right" like the reasoning of a lawyer trying to win a case he says :)

That is sooo true!!!
When reading a discussion about GM crops, I asked myself, Am I ready to find the right answer or Am I already convinced that GM companies are evil and are raping mother nature? Answer, not surprisingly, is I am emotional about the issue and I will read only those arguments which support my view and laugh at or get outraged by arguments which oppose my view.
Discussion about Gay rights- Is there any possibility that any argument in those forums will be able to convince me that being gay is wrong? hmmm I dont think so! It may be socially great attitude but its not scientific...( understand why some people think being gay is wrong...you dont have to buy into their argument .you can just start seeing why they think the way they think. Start seeing their mental blocks. This will help me to not get outraged? This is easier said than done! )

Reason mostly is slave to emotions. may be asking this question - Am I really ready to find the truth or Do I want to prove myself right ?  may help us open up and use the actual reason which may allow us to find the right answer?

hota hai yaar!
Galti se mistake ho jata hai! bade bodon se ho jata hai!
rone ko dhone ka, phir kuch deer mein uth ke aage bad ne ka!  bus!

What is natural?

Being gay - is un-natural so we should ban it
people use these arguments to justify their own form of diet
- humans being didnt eat meat naturally  we dont have teeth stomach etc for meat
- human being ates meat naturally, we were hunter gatherers.
It is natural for men to be promiscuous! To justify cheating men.

So? Rape is natural. Birth control is not.
Disease is natural, Medicine is not!

Something being natural is neither a pro or con for any behaviour, finding what is natural  just helps us understand ourselves better. Thats all.  Especially in the domain of ethics.

I think it is very important to know what is natural, but to only to help us understand.
some things may be natural and  we continue to do it that way
something may natural but will definitely be a no-no.

Diet wise, its important to know what is our natural diet and stick to it may be,
but If you are a moral vegetarian -you think killing animals is wrong, what does it matter if 100,000 years ago humans ate veg or meat?

That aside, I find evolution and psychology really fascinating, both sciences mostly used to find what is natural. I m very curious to know what is natural. Why things are the way they are! How were things before, did we always think and feel like this? What is behind our thin veil of rationality? Gives us different perspective and may be open up our minds.
what do you think?

Random

what is living?
In old days entertainment was a break from life. now life is a break from entertainment....
Watching TV and pausing it to get my food to eat in front of TV... break from entertainment for living.

This was a wrong thought to think just before sleeping,
I must have spent hours and hours, half asleep half awake, thinking which moment in that day counted as "life".  rewind rewind rewind the whole day - so what is this life then?   painting, yoga, gardening, cooking, eating,FB time, coursera, call home, furniture rearranging. thoroughly enjoyable self development learning etc  but was it life or break from life?

What is living what moments of my life count as living?

When do we help people by telling them things and when are we being stupid by assuming other people dont know anything when they probably know more than us.
When I say stupid people follow tradition, give mandatory gift etc... I m probably doing the same? they probably know thiigs I dont, how to maintain relationships etc and I m being a fool?
(Things should change may be - but One way it is not gonna happen is by calling other people - bad names.)
This requires us to understand and be more tuned into people -better??
or better tuned to ourself? Am I giving gyan to help or to show that I know better? is it a ego deal or a genuine concern?
sometimes ego is hidden behind genuine concern?

Is this also Empathy? the other side?
Empathy is what causes irritation in us when we see someone wearing uncomfortable clothes or have piercings. Empthay makes us feel like we ourselves have that piercing and we feel that pain/discomfort.
embarrassment! especially we feel embarrassed for others
empathy BTW is our reaction to their situation, may not be in tune with what they are feeling in their situation?

kindness?

Kindly old man was there. He was very kind. It was a winter, the birds in his garden didnt have any food. he fed the brids all thru the winter. Then next year  was a very harsh winter. he fed this birds thru very harsh winter. All the birds very making it now. The weak runts, the slow growers...everyone had a chance now, in this lovely new world. Next winter was harsher but old man -kindly old man helped the birds again.
Then after a few years he died and in the next harsh winter all the birds were wiped out, there were too many there was no food for all of them and they were too weak - nature hadn't made her selection , the runts and slow growers who we humans are so fond of... had diluted the gene pool. so they all went extinct :-D

recycling

Natural organic tea - Pretty cardboard box, wrapped in shiny plastic , inside another plastic air tight bag to keep the freshness, then each tea bag packaged in another easy to tear plastic sachet to keep in individual goodness - Oh! but dont worry I recycled all of it!
I recycle bags and bags every week. even bananas and eggs are packaged and wrapped. so I can recycle a lot. I m doing so much good for this world!

moral humility

moral humility! I love that concept. It may help find answers to many questions.

These days I am (intellectually at least) against convincing other people to my point of view.  how can I be so sure I m right and they are wrong?

Church and evangelist did just that, they were very sure they were right and converted half the world into Christianity. they were thinking they did absolutely right.. it is very doubtful if the effect of that is good.

When I m trying to convince someone that they should diet/become a vegetarian or start re-cycling or save the world and not make their children sissy what if I am being an evangelist.
what if they are killing girls! can I still practice moral humility? What would Dalailama or Buddha do in this case? think win win..
don't think for and against. They don't "want" to kill girls.  punish them, stop them is not gonna work. we need to find a win win. There may be some people who want to kill most do it because .. . ( Grr I m getting angry with them. I want to kick them. I m not good at this understanding thing. )

but may be we will find better solutions to problems when we start thinking win-win. EVERY problem has to have a win win solution, nature vv/s man.  dolphins vs whalers etc.
Its just a ray of hope or a glimmer I see, there is no right and wrong, there is no sides. we are all on one side.
what if we were killer whales? what if our sense of self extended beyond ourselves. would we fight our right hand with our left hand? unless it is a very very dire situation most times we should find a solution which saves both hands, not a compromise with losing a little bit of both hands! but a win win situation, may be we will be smart enough to find that.

I miss the river side...

[ Undrafting an old post. Looks like I wrote it after an afternoon by my favourite lunching spot by the river. but so weird - I start the blog with  "hehe all empathy and spirituality have gone to dogs n replaced by irritation but I m calling it kickass attitude :P :P yeah few posts coming that way" and .... What is kickass/irritated about the blog below?  have split personality?!! ]

I saw this funny bird by the river, he looked like a kid with a bad haircut :D  like a straight haired boy with two vortices on the head :D no one can give them a good hair cut :D LOL!

 Funnier this guy thought he was a duck n was hanging out with some ducks, swimming with them acting like them :D He looks nothing like them. Creepy thing :D They all looked like good kids with oiled hair and this one with bomb blast hair. What do you think we looked like if we din have mirrors? :D


I found its Great Crested Grebe-Male.


photograph by: JJ Harrison (jjharrison89@facebook.com)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Crested_Grebe

saving lives at all costs

[This may not be politically/morally correct, But What the heck ]
Sudden thought I need to stop my donations to RSPCA.
They send me pamphlets about what work they do,
They spent 10,000£ to rehabilitate a mangy dog with half of its mouth torn off.  They rescue a neurotic cat which cant go out, cat with hole in the heart, dog with attitude problems ready to attack any one. They do psychotherapy for these animals and try to fix them and send them to people to adopt.
I wonder what would be the quality of the life of people who adopt these problem pets? Its not the pets fault that it got so sick, its old owners were horrible horrible people.. but still.. is it justified? my money being spent on almost a hopeless case? ( yeah yeah you may think I m a heartless bitch, like I care :-P)

I tried to keep this indoor plant alive for 6 months, insect sprays, re-potting, fertilizers, change window etc ets. It was alive but sickly for such a long time. I wonder was it really kind of me to keep it alive like that? Shouldnt I have just thrown it in the bin as soon as I realised it has root rot?

Now I realise, if a fish is sick, flush it, if a indoor plant is sickly and dying, bin it. If a pet is really sick - like it has diabetes or heart disease? :( enthuse it?? not sure. don't buy breeds which are introducing such problems into dogs, they were eliminated by natural selection in street dogs!
That is the hard reality of life.
We are working against evolution when we try to keep unsuitable specimens alive, . Most plants and animals are designed to be alive only in top most condition, once they suffer damage, they give up and die quickly.  ever tried to save squirrels and baby birds?
Also  It is a huge huge drain on our emotions ( more than money, its the emotions)  It may be a tiny little fish, but seeing it die little by little every day or the plant not reviving at all is really downing.

And what about little ones? I love tulasi plant (holy basil), One summer I had about 500 saplings of basil :-) Should I save them? can I save them? because it is a plant answer is easy - make kashaya and drink. What about baby rabbits or puppies or kittens? Every species produces in excess to compensate for infant mortality, Save them all?

When we put in lot of effort into keeping these things alive, is it kindness or is it pity? or is it some kind of guilt and obligation? which are all wrong reasons.

and What about people?

 Is it really kind to try to save lives at all costs? In this day and age I wonder ... we can keep things and people "alive", even those who are in a really bad way.  The blue baby, accident victim  in coma.... and we are morally obliged to do this in this day.

But it does raise a question, should we change our morality?

Dolphis are intelligent

"Dolphins are highly intelligent creatures, They like to keep themselves occupied all the time. Most of their time is spend in having fun!" the documentary tells me! Grrrr!!!!

We ... are also suppose to be highly ...


Edit: When I was searching for killer whales brains - apparently they have parts to their brain which we dont have, some suspect they are more advanced than humans emotions wise ( Hitch hikers guide to the galaxy? :) ) I found this.( Captian Watson has something to do with  anti whaling and Georg is a Whaler I think)

Captain Watson: "Georg, I happen to measure intelligence by the ability to live in harmony with the natural world. By this criteria, whales are far more intelligent than we are."

Georg: "That is a stupid criteria. By that stupid criteria, you could say cockroaches are smarter than people."

Captain Watson: "Georg, you are beginning to understand what I'm talking about.

dividing or uniting?

opposite of religious is not atheist, because religion divides, atheism also divides.
opposite of  vegetarian is what? caught you! looking for opposite itself is diving! ;-)
Its a way of thinking we need to change,
Start looking for uniting factors not dividing ones.
Start rejecting diving thoughts/ideas/arguments. Is this a dividing thought? that, is enough to make us feel so much better day to day.

There is no win-lose. there is only win-win, there is no win if someone loses we are all connected.