How to take good decisions :-D

 I made a adivse list for myself!  do and donts for making decision from my experience, your comments and additions to this are most welcome! 

 

1)      Don’t take decision for others.. what will others think kar ke u shouldn’t take decision. But others are important, give them reasons they want to hear for u taking different decision from what they think u should have taken, these reasons may not really be valid for u, they may be fictious but u and they will feel better for having done this. all are convinced.

 

2)      Gut feel – gut feel is really good. Follow ur gut!

 

3)      Don’t take just logical decisions- it is not wholesome. Ur logic may leave out a big piece of reality. Logic is important to give u a good picture, but scoring and balance sheet listing positives and negitves approach may work for others , its good to have that sheet. But for somebody who has passion and who needs that emotional touch, this may not work well.  Give logic appropriate weightage but not all weightage.

 A adds: At the end, the happiness comes when u are happy with ur decision. And even though u could logically say this decision is better, ur mind might say the other way. In that case even if its a good decision, the right decision is when u are happy(emotional) about the decision.

 

4)      Fancy and dream decisions- they never come true.  Don’t follow. But how to differentiate between gut feel and day dreams?

A adds: Esp Dont make  greedy decisions... Based on money, based on attraction :) etc etc... 

6)      How do u feel after making a decision? like ur stomach is churning or as if u are on cloud nice. It’s a good idea to listen to ur feelings after making ur decision and then give it sometime and then make ur decision public

7)      Don’t take a quick decision just because the process of being in indecision is making u very uncomfortable. Don’t take a tactical decision just to pacify this itch so to say. Accept the discomfort that exisct until decision is made, it is unavoidable.

A adds: dont stay in Indecision either, by  procrastinating forever. Does human brain by default avoid reaching conclusions on negative issues? See if u are just being indecisive just because the decision is unplesant.

8)      Don’t look for signs!! unless u are hopelessly into it or a hopeless romantic :D. Its just an excuse for getting rid of the responsibility of taking the decision. U will interpret some nonsense as sign to get rid of making a decision.

 

9)      Take ur own decision. Don’t look  for others approval. You are an adult now. Parents, husband,Wife friends… take advise but decision is yours and yours only. 

 10)   No body can predict the future, its ok to make mistakes. Learn from them, don’t cry about them.(Ok u can cry for a short time :P) Don’t spend eternity trying to take that RIGHT decision.

11)  No decision is for ever. most decisions are not life changing.  Many are reversible.  If at a later point of time things become clear revert decisions. u are not Rajput. But this is not an excuse to be fickle. Fickle is huge drain on mental resources. Never be fickle.

12)   Make a list of all the correct decisions which u have taken or which have happened to you. U don’t want to analyse it, but just thinking about it makes u feel more confident about ur abilities. And sub conscious may just analyse and create a healthy algo to get right decisions for future. And don’t focus on how to not take wrong deiciosns too much, you should be positive. :-)

13)   Listent o all your fears, don’t try to ignore and subdue or underestimate any sentiment. You need to know why u are feeling like that about something… u may uncover an important reason which may change the decision.

 A adds:

One point I dont see u have touched on is the need to take random thrills :)... Like suddenly buying something fancy, or just going on a date... and exploring... or things like that :) yes... at times it good to just jump in and be spontaneous! forget about long process of making decisions.