Insights are rare - When you are new and learning everything , there are insights every day, It feels amazing. Then after sometime the knowledge of the insight remains but the effect on us fades ( atleast on me ) Now I seem to know a lot but the same enthusiasm and earnestness to make it part of everyday life is evasive. Even tho it is like this, I hope the knowledge has seeped into my consciousness and is nourishing me in mysterious ways ;-)
Anyway few new insights
What people do is aways based on emotions - logic comes only later
To each his their own
The conclusion from both these insights is dont judge anyone.
These are not new or ground breaking, but good thing is I m able to remember this more and more frequently in day to day life.
Why do some people have 11 children, while some have one - or none? I read some forum posts by people about this - Its my wish - I will have as many as I like, I can afford it, life is meaningful only with children, they are gifts of god, I love children, I like the feeling of being needed, I was brought up alone and was lonely - I want my kids to have full home, my parents had lot of children so I too want the same etc etc. Some ppl had only one child or no children Why? I want to be able to take the best care for my kids, too many kids - u wont be able to pay attention to them. I was part of a huge family- I took care of my siblings - I dont want children. I was only child - I liked it - I want only one kid. How can ppl have many children - when earth is so burdened? The environment is in such a bad place, future will be hell - I dont want to bring more ppl into this world and so on.
Some ppl think they are bringing more children into the world for God and doing good to the society, some ppl are not having any and thinking they are doing good to the society.
In the end I felt all these reasons are just reasons - ppl go by their instincts and how they feel. Ppl who didnt have kids - didnt want kids, they didnt have the same brooding instinct which others had. The ppl who had lot of children had an over drive of brooding instincts. The reasons for this instinct may be society, peers, what they saw in life etc. But base reason is instinct. Person who has a brooding instinct will have 2 kids even if society says no, even if they are very environmentally conscious, even if their parents had only one child etc. In a conductive society this person will have 6. The person with no brooding instincts - will have one child even if their parents have 3, their society tells them 10 is minimum, etc In a conductive society this person will not have any kids.
This leads to second insight - to each his their own. Every one is shaped by their own unique experiences and perceptions. The conclusion I come to, the judgement I make, the reaction I feel for a particular situation is dependent on my past. For me - something may be repulsive, for me - something may be lovely, for me - something may sound like absolute trash or absolute truth. for me - something may sound ethical or not. It is not necessary that someone else feels the same. As a society we make some rules and agree that we should feel this way or that way about a few things. May be during the evolution of a species some such things are hard coded in us - like apparently fear of falling and snakes - I find the extent of such fear is highly varied. So when someone has value judgements different from me - should keep in mind that they are coming from a different place, expectation that they feel the same way about things as me is not realistic.
