Connie Wills/BellWeather/How do I know its not fiction

Ok ok I said I was not bloggign because I didnt have a laptop any more, Well now I have one. And still not blogging.  Excuse exposed I suppose.  :-)
Well so I decided to write something as and when I was in a high about something. If you ask me one thing I love about myself, at this point in time I would say I read! I am loving it.
I am loving this book by Connie Wills. BellWeather.
I love Connie Wills, Now that I think about it,  3rd female author I have been in love with. Are they writers or scientists? I love authors who make me feel like this. Ursula Leguin now Connie Wills. Diana Whyne Jones  I have been in love for a long time, She has been generous with her writing. I am afraid I may finish off even that. No, she is not Sciency but she is Witchy not in a witch may, but in a good witch way like Jessa is. Jessa is another author I am friends with on facebook, she believes in woo-woo. I know woo-woo doesont describe it any better than witchy. Magic-y? new Age( argh! now That is a fad )  anyway that kind.
Yeah Sciency/Witchy women authors Rock( as A would say)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Connie_Willis This is Connie. She is sciency and has a sense of humour to boot, sarcastic one. Love :-D

Ok back to BellWeather - bellweather kind of means trend setter . It means the lead Ram( male sheep,  which leads the folk. Tho in the book BellWeahter was a girl sheep). This book is about fads. Oh fads fads fads, its about a scientist who is studying fads. Sociologist., I love anthropologiss and sociologists. Anyway she is talking about fads and Ouch! Ouch ! Ouch! How this hits home, Sometimes I wince because I am following fads ( especially these days related to fittness) Othertimes I agree with her How I loath fads and fadders - barbie and pink and hair ironing etc. and yet another is things I really like and do and like and had been doing for a long time become a fad Meditation/yoga/trekking. I hate the feeling. Hopefully I will still be there when the fad passes, Hope I dont care enough about this to not stop things just because they are faddy?

hmmm, Its fiction and super funny - That brings me to another thing. I know "KNOW" that the things mentioned in this book are real. Like when she talks about Einsten having measels or about discovery of benzen ring. I used to watch Elementary - series about Shelock Homes ( yet another! I know!) I also believed the facts(?!) which were mentioned in the series, I found myself quoting out of Series. Dead Clade Walking to be precise. Then I realised, I hadnt googled it or found out much about it, How did I decide that it was a fact and not part of fiction, When Starwars talks about Science I dont believe it, I dont believe it when X files people talk about stuff Why did I believe this? I googled and it was indeed a fact, I googled many Geeky things shown on that show and all were true. My instinct was correct, but I have no idea how I had decided that. It is a bit scary, what if I had got it wrong :D I would be like those people who believed about Mars attacks being real when a play was broadcast on Radio :D

Big Bang theory also always mentions facts, but I discounted them, When Rajs dog is sick by eating chocolates I didnt believe that chocolates were harmful for dogs. In fact they are, Big bang theory is accurate about most things it tells apparently.  Still.. I dont automatically file it as fact, actually I dont even google and verify I just laugh and forget. Except when they talk science, like Srojengers cat for example :-) 

Inheritance ( Game of Thrones spoiler Alert + Rant Alert)

Why does every great person have to have hidden parentage and have great parents? Is greatness always inherited? Cant people accept that a random guy/ a bastard/ an Orphan can be great? Does he have to secretly have king and queen parents to be great?!! Are there no self made men/women?  X-(
This is a rant about a twist in Game of Thrones, everybody is raving about.
I m angry. I am angry that the good guy is a prince, he was a bastard but actually no! he is a prince.
The guy who really was a bastard was evil guy.
It is sad.

Maybe its just a way to make the story interesting and I shouldn't read all this into it? It doesn't bother others. People just love just love hidden parentage stories.

It is a very common plot, age old - Karna! he was charioteers son but was amazing at warfare. Then plot twist. he was son of a queen.
Krishna also He was a cowherd but amazing skills, but he was stolen from the womb of a queen.

( May be there are others who are shown to be great inspite of being ordinary people, may be my confirmation bias is preventing me from seeing those stories. Jesus? ( but he was son of god wasnt he ;-) )

It is the problem with the story writers or the audience?
Or is it a reality of life, my liberal mind does not accept?  No! in real life there are many great men who didnt come from royal families. Gandhi/Stalin/Hitler. last 100 years are a good example of this.
Last 5000 years are a good example of greatness only coming down from parents (not because ordinary people were not capable, but there were very very few avenues for normal person to be different from his parents) Actually that makes a very stronger argument in favour of nurture than nature? :-P
Also genes do play a very big part in what we are, so does bringing up. In case of animals genes pay a much bigger role. In case of humans? How much? no body knows.
Conservatives will lean towards believing genes do more and Liberals will lean towards nurture.

Life is like a HIIT workout :D
Frantic running for 5 days and then rest for 2 days!
Mental it is!

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

-Rumi

Sufi Buddhist Yogi are all the same. 

ideas of beauty = I am rich

What is beautiful? What ever pleases our eye. What pleases our eye? we can easily be trained to find one a particular type of thing pleasing. It is not hardcoded, It is programmed by our conditioning and day to day life.

What we consider as beautiful in a woman? Definitely not grimy hands with mud stuck in the nails! LOL! Gardening did that to me, I hate gloves, so I did a bit of digging and mud, black mud stuck to my hands like glue, I think I am getting old and mud gets lodged in the wrinkles :P
I thought about all the long nailed soft clean hands on women and think, these guys! ( or girls) how do they garden? wearing gloves obviously, they must go into lot of trouble and take lot of care to keep the hands like that.
Why did long nails become beautiful? ( Why is being beautiful always kind of inconvenient? ever thought of that? I have! Always ! :P)  Was it because in the old days it was used to show people that, Hey I am rich. I don't do any house work! You want proof? Look at my hands! Hah!
Women did real work in those days and you couldn't fake beautiful hands even while doing all the dirty work, like pulling rope to get water out of wells and chakki peecing. So it was proof enough.

Tied up feet of chinese women showed that their father/husband/who ever was so rich that she could survive without even walking! God!
Along with long  painted nails, there are other symbols of beauty which are just symbols of weakness really like - soft hands, untanned skin( pale skin) , delicateness and daintiness, no scars, high heels...All showing I can't work so I must be rich.
For that matter, bling like gold, diamonds etc jewellery which "enhances" a womans beauty..... Ha ha! It enhances your beauty my declaring to the world that you are rich! :D
It is not secret at all, it is hardly about beauty at all is it ? It has always been about Wealth??

Now like peacock feathers, we are concentrating on the symbols and not on the meaning, long nails no longer means you are not required to do any house hold work but still stands as something desirable/beautiful. Even tho even today rich have found new ways to show off their exclusiveness expensive cars/branded labels etc