lot of discrepancies between me and the world

When I was a kid

I used to think it is ok if ur dress flew up when u fell down, all girls used to giggle!! and talk behind back also, you know that girl fell and her skirt was all over the place!  Christ how I hate girls :D

It is ok if someone suddenly coughs/sneezes and something falls on u, after all its emergency :-P Then after years someone made a disgusted face and said why cant they cover their mouth nose! 

If you feel like vomiting you vomit, I didnt know you had to run to the bathroom.  poor thing u are! first of all in trouble why u shud run to bathroom? :P 
Actually in my head you were excused about a lot of things if you are in trouble like coughing falling vomiting feeling sick, I didnt hold you responsible for your actions in such cases :-P  Actually so many more things than these, even now I feel like AIyya so what! ( I m sure I go balistic for things people think, Aiya so what! like sexism/favouritism among others )  

Animals are pristine and clean. They were excused of all cleanliness rules. They can lick me after licking their own bum, its fine :D :P 

And opposite leniency with kids

 children, everyone seems ok what ever they do, I used to treat them with same rules as elders, they get hit as hard as anyone else :D

Sonu and the mirror

Sonu is such a sweet heart, He is the sweetest cat in the world. Being sweet and nice, has its own disadvantages. The other cats bully this poor boy. I read that one way to keep away bully cats from our garden is to keep mirrors, They look at their own reflection and get threatened and run away. I was afraid  my own Sonu will get frightened of the cat in the mirror and refuse to go into the garden.
I had forgotten Sonu is a sweetheart, I found Sonu looking at the mirror and spending a lot of time there, He made friends with the cat in the mirror, he found a sweetheart cat there.
The bully cats find frightening bully cat in the mirror and  frighten themselves.
So Symbolic, Mirror is like life itself, you find there exactly what you give :-) 

Sar kata sakte hai lekin sar jhuka sakte nahi? Really?

I am like that, I am a proud person, I like the "sar kata sakte hai lekin sar jhuka sakte nahi!" strategy,  Looking at the world around me, Looking at history especially, It looks like a foolish strategy :-)

My dad came back from Rajasthan trip, He is very insightful!, He observed, All these Rajasthan warriors / Rajputs, are supposed to be so proud (Movies and popular culture shows them as a very proud race,  They are like epitome of 'death before dishonour' culture or something)  Saala every one of those Rajput king has married off his  sister or daughter to a Moghul king and bowed down his head! What proud my ass! (hehe dad din say that, its my colourful attempt to depict his tone! :P )   You go and see Rajasthan every palace and temple is well preserved, as opposed to Karnataka temples which are destroyed by Muslim rulers ( And Karnataka people are supposed to be mild mannered swalpa adjust maadi types!)

In history,  who survived are the ones who bowed down their heads, those who held their heads high have perished.
What happened to Maha Rana Pratap? Died in Haldi ghati! He is a martyr! He head his head high, fought,was defeated and dead.
Raja Maan Singh, made friends with Akbar, married his sister off to Akbar, bowed down his head, His palace is still intact today in Jaipur.

Rani Lakshmi Bai fought the British and was destroyed ( Ok she is a hero today! So? ) and her minister who betrayed her by making a deal with the English Some Scindia, That bloody traitor! His family is still very wealth political family, active in politics and People still voting for them!


Hmmmm, So really which strategy is good? You decide! I think flexible values are good. if your conscience allows it. Mine does not (yet) I need more to work on my maturity little more :P

Anyway I was thinking how come whole of middle east upto Pakisthan is Islamised and India is still in Hindu Majority, even tho Moghuls ruled India for 800 years and British for another 200?
 Is it the strength of Hindu religion? Then Pakisthan was also Hindu wasnt it?
There may be lot of other reasons, but one of reasons is thanks to all those kings who made treaties with Moghuls.  If they had fought and lost the kingdom, they would have been forced to convert to Islam along with their whole kingdom. Its not easy to convert a king and his whole kingdom, if he is making a treaty and not exactly losing to you. So Hinduism, all their palaces (which are heavily influenced by Islamic architecture) temples all survived. Its a good outcome.

HONY

He has this amazing talent of warming your heart and making you feel good. Its addictive how chicken soupy for the soul and feel goody he is! ( and not cheesy and fake at the same time too!) I love Humans Of New York! How does he do it? Is it because he is a good person at heart? I am so jealous of him! How does he do it? :-)

So I decided to collect stories too! :-) What stories are hiding behind these lovely people? Will I be able to draw out the most interesting bits of their life? like Brandon? :-) 

Oh I didnt dare! I went to Central London! Alone! I was feeling great! My adventure! Yes! That Chinese guy there having coffee alone could have a story, Or the old middle eastern man over there....My throat dried up, my hands sweat! :D hehehe! I didnt even make eye contact with anyone! Not those two, Not anyone else on the street! I wanted to go and hide in a hole!  One thought about asking for story and That was it :D  Sigh!
Brandon is Brandon and me is me :D Me is good to keep a hidden blog in the forgotten corner of internet and is happy with it :D 

Value of life?

(Why do I feel like I have published this one already,  or did I read it many times in draft itself? ) 
This is about euthanasia, killing animals and importance of life and all...
How valuable is life?
Ah again same topic but I m back to it..
we as humans seem to think life is very important,We try to save lives of children with holes in their hearts, we try to save old people, very sick people by putting them on life support, lot of people don't eat meat because killing animals is wrong,
I am wondering is it really wrong?

Like I have said before death and killing ( especially young ones) is part of life, it is part of evolution, it is part of life cycle, it is integral part of life on earth.

Everyone reproduces in plenty and only part of it is meant to survive
Its either kill or neuter - we know from street dogs dont we?

I felt this strongly when I did gardening
I love tulsi plant, but it has 10000 seeds and 1000s of seedlings.. how many can u grow. answer is - u cant, u have to uproot and throw ( or make kashaya :)
There is no way earth can support all those that are born, most are meant to die. most infants are meant to die. This is what leads to evolution and forming of different species. More diversity, more chance that life on earth will make it thru catastrophes.

This is infant mortality, another is reproduce and die.
Annual plants - their life cycle is - born in spring, flower in summer, seeds in autumn and die. That's it. They cant be made to live longer than that. Thats their life cycle, for a long time I resisted growing such plants. Its a waste :D  That was the mental block, Flowering plants from super markets are more like a bouquet rahter than a plant. I like to see plants live rather than just see them flower and die. I hated such plants , BTW all our grains are also such plants, wheat, rice, sugar cane... whatever plants we harvest are all, grow - flower - seed - die plants. What is the value of such a life?

Its not just plants, there are animals too
There is a moth the caterpillar has a mouth but the adult moth does not have a mouth at all. It is not meant to eat at all, its meant to die in 7 days ( feels like a fairy tale story :D ) Its suppose to find its princess/prince and reproduce,lay eggs and die. if it doesn't succeed it dies anyway.
so what is the value of life for these things?
Salmons - they go to reproduce and die, so reproduction is more important than living. most /all animals live to reproduce not the other way around.
So it is probably a bigger crime to neuter an animal than to kill it?

If we are melding and helping with the reproduction of an animal, then can we kill it?
I mean it is the strategy of sheep and chicken that they are tasty, thats why there are so many of them, they are spreading fast while their wild counter parts are getting extinct.
is that really wrong? Species wise its a good thing for them tho indivisual vise its bad for them.

This post was written long ago( 15/12/2012 ), Now I heard is this symbiosis  between Water birds and alligators. Scientists found that alligators who stayed near Water bird nests were doing better than others, even tho they couldn't reach the nest and hence couldn't eat the birds. They also found that the birds who had alligators near their nests were doing better than birds that didn't! The alligators prevented other predators like raccoons getting into the nests and eating all the chicks. How were the alligators benefiting? The alligators were eating the eggs and chicks that dropped off from the nest. They also found that the birds pushed off eggs and chicks from the nest purposefully to attract the alligators!?! Sometimes the birds produced more eggs than they could care for and they pushed these away to pay for protection. Fascinating!
Human values, human rights and wrongs,morals , so subjective, so NOT universal! 

BTW this is the post which is similar to this one... same thoughts http://mystic-babe.blogspot.co.uk/2014/01/saving-lives-at-all-costs.html

make a persuasive study to convince people to become vegetarians.

make a persuasive study to convince people to become vegetarians.

what are the problems with the way people argue about being vegetarians
1) They compare eating meat with killing baby seals or whales. They portray meat eaters are monsters. This may seem reasonable to a vegetarian but when a meat eater who sees themselves as a reasonable and good person, sees this ad what does he feel. If he accepts this argument - meat eating makes me a monster, He will experience disonance. He has two choices - one accept this argument become a monster and then reform. self sustaining bias will never allow the meat eater to accept that what they are doing is wrong. Its easier to just call the argumenter a nutter which preserves my self identity as NOT a monster.
2) They create group bias, Me and You, I m a vegge you are a non veggie, as soon as you make the meat eater identify themselves as a different group as you, he is going to apply all the good qualities to his own group and all the bad ones to you and WILL NOT listen to you an Out grouper.
3) One way of persuading people is being likable. most "be a veggie" campaigns start of being obnoxious. Instead of making people like you, all meat eaters will dislike you. so they wont buy in
4) Also they are already primed to not move from their point of view before watching your video. so forwarding videos will not work.

How to create a be a vegetarian campaign
1) one thing that may work is the fear tactic, eating meat is BAD for you. This is working.
2) Inhuman treatmeant of animals NOT by YOU but by MEAT Corporations.  This has made people switch to ethically treated meat ( which is also good )
3) Sell the advantages of eating veg, This has been some what effective and lot of people are eating less meat and more vegetables than before. 
4) question yourself, Am I really so concerned about animals or am I a judgmental ass? :P if later just stop trying to convince others and live in peace. If former, go adopt a couple of puppies from SPCA and live in peace :D :P ( and please dont feed vegan food to those poor puppies :P )

which plants affected my life most

The most?
all of them probably in the 3km radius of me?  they produce oxygen after all :-)

Let me see how many plants I have eaten/drunk today.
Rice/Wheat/Tea/Grass which the cow ate whose milk I drank, Soya, mint in the tooth paste, all my herbal teas, black berry, rooiboos.
Banana, orange apple, chick peas, cucumber tomato

Teak, Oak, bamboo - I m sitting on, our house is built on.
paper! cardboard! pencil all made from trees...

my pet plants. roses, cherry blossom, plumeria
mango tree, chikoo tree loved as a kid

Stay at home mums

Just shake things a bit

How would I feel about stay at home mum?
I didnt think much about stay at home mum before, but now I have respect. ( for some :-P),especially those that had a great career going - Courageous women who got their priorities right. Its really cruel on themselves to carry on working and take care of the kid and stress themselves with guilt and frustration. I think society should be more supportive of mums....( Of only one or two! please not 11!  )
if kids are younger then I m ok, what if the kids are older and dont need care?
How would I feel about stay at home wife? ( no kids)
Stay at home husband ( no kids but takes care of wife...)
How would I feel if both parents have lot of money and they both decided to stay at home and look after kids? Its their choice.
How about both parents dont have money but they stay at home and look after kids and take state benefit? Dont like it. Burden on society, shouldnt have kids in the first place
Stay at home girl - Daughter? dont like it. Burden. What if dad has lots and lots of  money?
Stay at home son?( most people dont like this, they think he is useless burden on his parents :D but they wont think that about the daughter)
what if she had to stay home to look after sick patents? I feel  Pity n respect
 what if it was a son who did that?  most people will feel pity or think he is stupid and ask him to get married so his wife can look after parents and he can work.
-how would I feel if a girl told me she wants to be a mother and wife? and nothing else? I would be  Livid. Most people accept this as freedom of the girl to do what she wants
 How about Stay at home boy - if your son wants to be a dad and husband and nothing else. Would be laughed at and not accepted as an option at all my most people.


why is being only a mother and wife not enough? It leads to social evils, Atleast so far in history it has lead to a weaker and more vulnerable position for the woman who is at the mercy at others. It goes against my basic value - Independence.  If the woman has inherited a lot of money and is independent, then my feelings may change. Just like peoples feelings about unwed mothers has changed in the western society. It is no longer a taboo because state will look after an unwed mother and her child. So, that woman will no longer be burden on family hence no taboo :-) Its all economics like that ;-)
We may feel strongly this way or that based on our conditioning and experiences in life, there is no absolute right and wrong!

and the dominnce of the left brain continues

"An estimated six billion pounds of fruits and vegetables are wasted every year in the U.S. because they are ugly, according to report by the Natural Resources Defense Council. That means more than 20 percent of the produce grown for human consumption is rejected by grocery stores and goes uneaten because of its appearance."

Yes! We as a civilization, especially the "developed" western world, With its smart people is judging vegetables by its shape! destroying billions of pounds of crop which they grew by killing billions of other vegetation and animals by making farms in the first place! cause they dont look good!  And they are genetically modifying crop to prevent hunger in the world!!! dear god! how infuriating! how blood boilingly stupid! Its the high IQ scientists and the capitalists who say things like this! People are not eating ugly veggies, Let us make veggies beautiful! thats the way to make money for capitilists and thats another problem to solve for the left brain dominant scientists!  you know just because we can! its one more pattern in the lego! no you fools! you are killing mother earth with all your money minded nonsense and pursuit of challenges! 

IDIOTS!

Why is time speeding up

This mystery is finally solved! In my pseudosciency way anyway.

In real time, i.e in the current moment, when you are doing something interesting time seems to fly, Oh 2 hours! where did it go! When you are bored, Time seems to have stopped! Argh! I want this to be over but its only been 5 minutes!! Argh!! 
So If you spent your life doing boring things, would you feel like you lived a very long life? and if you lead an interesting life, would you feel that you lived your life in a flash?? :-)?

Why not?
Completely opposite actually! 

The logic of boring = slow for time works only in the present moment. When we look at how much time has passed by, we are actually looking back. We are actually looking at our past! into our memories! 
How are things stored in our memory? Our brain does not store everything that happens to us into the long term memory,  only significant incidents, significant information, rest all mundane, repetitive - just filtered off! 

When we look back into our past thinking how much time has flown by, we look at the content of our memory in that time frame. How many mile stones we encounter in our memory, determines how slow or fast time seems to have flown for us. In the last five years...If there are many milestones to stop and ponder in the memory, it feels like time took its time, if we lived a clockwork life, our memory feels like we just jumped from 2010 to 2016. Where did time go? Time went by at its own pace, but not much was recorded in the memory! Not like there are gaps in the memory, every day was recorded, but it was optimized, may be it just says, ditto :-D

The difference between what we were, when we were 3 years old and when we were 9! The same 6 year period, how much we changed!, how much each year, each month varied from the one before! Our memories of this time are much richer than later life! If we meassure it in bytes, we get big files! :-)  I am sure the resolution is much higher! It is required isn't it? More data, more resolution,more bytes per day? because we were seeing doing new things which we never encountered before, everything for the first time ever!

 Didnt you feel time fastened once you reached your teens? I feel time started moving faster after my 10th std.  It actually did a little bit. Each year was stored in less number of bytes than before. May be by 15-16 we had seen quite a bit of life.
Once we  reach our  30s, age 30 to age 36 nothing much changes. Is one year of your life very much different from the other? Do we really experience something new, something completely new ? May be not more than once in a few years.  Is there any surprise time flies by so fast?  
Its all an illusion, this mind stuff! 

( You can say you did a lot. vacationed in china, vacationed in Africa.. trekked mount Everest - These are all still same things for the brain, with little variations in the theme )

Your negativity is my rocket fuel

All the negativity turns into anger
Anger turns into fire
In that fire I burn
like Iron, turn into steel
tempered and strong
Your Negativity is my rocket fuel
It pushes me forward
I wait for it and propel with it
Bring it on!