I was telling my friend - How my mom compares herself with other people and sees herself coming up short, even tho she is an amazing woman. In fact even in aspects where she is really good. She has always been fit and fit looking, flat stomach, always 55 kilos even in her 40s and 50s. But she always moaned about how other women look thin where as she looks fat because her arms are big! Like seriously! She was comparing herself with other women who were unfortunately not as fit and fab as her. they were typical Indian women dont take care of themselves, so have a bloated tummy, thin arms and legs. Those poor women ploded on by the time they are in their 40s. I feel its a bit unfair even comparing them to each other. Why cant she see this?
I think this is because of minimizing. We reduce ourself or another person to a single trait. She is not seeing her whole self or the body but just seeing her arms. We also do this all the time. But the minimizing is many. We look at a couple and say - Girl is so pretty, Guy is ok. We are reducing those people to just their looks
Why dont we make an effort to see the whole diamond rather than just see one face of it- one face of a diamond is just glass.
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