my world is entirely different from your world!!!
Discussions on individualistic and collectivist countries have been somewhat of an eye opener.

What individualistic culture may look at a deviant or unethical or manipulative or non genuine can be seen as something very natural and normal by a collectivist culture where harmony is of at most importance.

One example was in the west, It is ethical to give a job to the most deserving candidate, if you give it to your nephew instead you would be considered a unethical cheat. But in some cultures, people would think what kind of heartless thankless nut you are, if you give the job to some stranger than to your own nephew! How much ever I am inclined to believe that the first way is right, to most people second way is the right way.

Yeah yeah we are all Indians but I think I have somehow turned out more individualistic than most of my country mates. I find it very unethical that many people in India pretend to be something else in front of their parents/in laws.
Dont wear jeans in front of my parents.
Why?  Is it wrong?
no. but parents are old and they will get hurt.
so? u will cheat them?
Why dont u understand?
Why dont YOU understand?

They value harmony not honesty. I value honesty/fairness more than harmony. collectivist vs individualist.


[Moralities course prof asked a very good question related to this, continuing this line of thought, if you found that your neighbours child is much more intelligent than your child should you be paying for sending him to better school than your kid ;-) ]

joy of not having

I am Jealous of kids who start early, atleast I was.
Kids who are 17 who know how to swim and skate and play tennis and ski and go gymnastics! everything! These guys got to learn gymnastics at school!
Now I see the reality behind this! Its drudgery not enjoyment! Tennis classes at 6 in the morning, soccer classes after school, drawing classes on Sunday. Its not all the things they want to do, Its the things their parents want them to do. The parents who are like me, who wanted to do all that  now making kids do. Its not as fun for them as I imagine it would be for me.
Its normal, its not magic any more. (like a fairy doll which flies, Where is the magic in that?)

Not having and dreaming about something is great fun! :-) Having ... not so much :-)

When we hurt someone we are not afraid of their hurt
we are afraid of the hurt we feel when we hurt someone the empathy, the guilt, the conscince..

capitalsim

Actually I keep putting down capitalism, but what is it?
This is all that I group under capitalism and dislike...

1)      Win-loose – if I make money its enough screw everyone else. Everyone else is consumer, nature competitor etc

2)      Money < quality the motivation behind the work is somehow mechanical( is that the right word?) Especially in art- Movies/TV/Music.  you make something that will make money rather than what comes from your heart. It lacks soul. It is made with the audience in mind with a comitee by businessmen rather than artists.

What people want, what  makes money even if it is rubbish( what is rubbish? It doesnot nourish the soul, it is against the moral tenets) 

3)      Club culture, I m superior I will use my power to subdue you, I have powerful friends we will pat each others back and get things done.

4)      Rebulicans, George Bush- Now adays the America – big brother, arrogance.

Capitalism

Mental patterns, perception, judgements, labels... our reality is so objective.
how do we know what is good and bad? There is no good and bad. There is no correct and incorrect.
So how to live a life like that? I am upset by a few things- Bastards are corrupt!  but then is it only my objective judgement that corruption is bad?
The argument at home was . TV serials are trying to manipulate kids into buying toys. Toy shops are stocked with pink stuff, to sell to girls, Stereotyping. Kellogs tells women, get back ur self worth, lose weight!  Those marketing people dont have any ethics, they have a very short term self centered goal. They will go anything to get maximum bonus and a shiny career.
These judgements are all also objective. It is your opinion that Kellogs is manipulating people into thinking fat is not good for self esteem. many fat women appreciate it that Kellogs give then a plan to get thin.
Many people may be of the opinion that Toy shops are not gender stereotyped, they are gender appropriate. Obviously if it is democracy, there are more people with that opinion or the toy shops wouldnt have any sales and would change their strategy.
So its a free market, Its democracy after all, so people get what they want. peoples wants shape the world.


What conclusion I came to is that.. everything in todays world is kind of win lose. I mean mostly. Its either us against nature, one country against another, company wants to get your money out and so on.

The solution to Capitalim is win -win. like Google ads, like Linux, like free software. Like piracy and torrents of Paulo Coehlo ( his story of how, his book was pirated to russian, His books sold in thousands in Russia before piracy and after that his books started selling in millions :) )

We as a culture have to make a shift towards win win from win -lose. We should think of , how I can make better toys than how I can sell better. we need deisgners and scientists, we have to dispense of with huge classes of jobs like marketing people , sales people  bankers, CEOs anyone who is having a salary of 10000000 $£ etc is out. I dont believe any one ads that much value to a company.

All old boys clubs should be out, all contacts, networking should be out, all groupism out, all fart CVs should be out.
genuineness instead of facets or postering.
my solution -  is choose the win win solution to the best of our current knowlege.

what is shallow and what is deep

I liked my cousins post on facebook against people who say dark is not beautiful. All colors are beautiful, then I thought in the same lines... tall and short - how come tall is more beautiful than short and it is not even considered a discrimination?
and what about our obsession with "big"?  Having grown up like Sheldon cooper, I had totally missed it that big boobs are supposed to be better, hence so many complaints by girls about how their blouses were like shirts (dont embarrass me!) and how some girl was flat! giggles! or pride by others on their size( dont gross me out!! Shut up already)  was totally lost on me untill very late in the day the light finally lit and I was like Oooooo...
Why no campaign against that? all body shapes are cool as long as u are healthy? or not?
About weight loss, nobody is talking about being stronger, Oh BTW if u think about being stronger and healthier rather than being thin with big boobs - u are a lesbian :-p
what about hair? or hair loss? bald men ?
let alone skin color, we judge people by dresses too...
I dont like men who wear cuff links :D

We may consciously say no to being superficial, but superficiality runs deep. we like people who look like us. We may say fair is beautiful, but we like people who are like us.

Coming to the point- what about discrimination based on social background and culture. I look down upon people who are on social benefits.

saying fair is beautiful dark is not - is superficial
saying only 36-24 -36 figure is beautiful - is superficial
saying only men with hair on head are handsome is superficial? [but my dad is bald and I think he is very handsome :D ]
but the fact is we like one type and dont like some other... some women like cute faces and some like rugged, some like facial hair and some hate...to an extent it is superficial but it is no crime surely?
It becomes a crime when the likes and dislikes start becoming discriminating? but the line is very thin.
Isnt giving importance to education also some kind of superficiality?
like how Sheldon is obsessed with Phd .. superficial?
when does preference become superficiality, when does it become racist?

There was this quiz which had interesting questions like
do u think it is racist if a person wants to be friends with people of his own race - YES
do u think it is racist if a person wants to marry people of his own race- yes...
do u think it is racist if a person wants to marry people of his own religion - no...
Why is this any different? hmmm it is not. the difference of what is acceptable and not is very superficial.

slowing down

Everyone is walking fast, everyone is overtaking me.. everyone is doing things so fast.Everyone is in a hurry. I want to keep my slowness. I want to wash my glass easily, I dont like the fast thing
am I more yin than yang
my natural speed is slow and relaxed, even if I want to do somethign fast I want to do it relaxed not hurriedly. 

LOL! not after starting insanity workout, These workouts are so aggressive and yang. Now I want to kick the asses of laid back peoples like me on the day I do Insanity and I am the laid back on the days I do yoga :D

autistic people cant figure out emotions in others but do feel empathy.
psychopaths are charming and able to read and manipulate emotions in others exceedingly well but dont actually feel empathy.
kind of opposites.

Beautiful underarms are a sign of inner beauty :D

Beautiful underarms are a sign of inner beauty :D

ask Dove - and their very successful marketing campaign.

How companies are scrambling to get on the socially progressive bandwagon.

some are crude and some are very subtle and quite impressive in hiding their hungry fangs trying to dip into ur purse.

crude
This ad thinks it promotes women empowerment - Heavy gold plated woman/bride with a proud expression - "I didnt choose my Husband but I can chose my jewellery" If it was being sarcastic, It would have been very funny. 

Mom! I dont want to get married, Mom takes daughter jewellery shopping, daughter is so excited about gold jewellery, she agrees to gets married.Aiyo no Its not trivializing women, this actually is supposed to  be women's empowerment.

Subtle ones which take you at first glance

Kellogs - All they are saying is - try to fit into the ideal of a slim woman defined by us, by  eating 3 bowls of corn shit each day! and for doing that u get the title of real empowered woman who has control of her life or  something like that. 

Dove - Dove actually makes some really sensible ads about women empowerment,  like dove run like a girl campaign which was all right, but what has that got to do with dove? They are just nice and promoting a social cause?  what dove really wants is for u to be beautiful overall, like by having beautiful under arms!!!! with 1/4 moisturiser in their deo to keep your under arms wriknkle free! They are trying NLP to make u associate Dove with the current it-thing social cause but Thats as superficial as beautiful underarms for you!

Advertisers are sly manipulative lowly worms.

love spray

ha ha not like that, english is very limited in words for love,  It is overloaded like crazy to mean sex to affection to casual liking (i love icecream) and is the only powerful word to describe such emotions at that.( words that i know of anyway)  I mean it in the sense of affection/heart melted by looking at sunset, universal love kind of way. not passion or romantic love.

so sydney hostage crisis, instead of trying  to use a snipper or trying to kill the man with bullets, cant they pump some gas to make him fall unconscious? some harmful, quick acting gas? it may act ofn other people before acting on him and he may get a que and start shooting ( in some cases trigger a bomb) Or may be hallucinogenic gas, which makes the terrorists really confused but then it could go really un predictable!

what about love gas( eeks ! ppl always use word love in kinky way x-( , love gas sounds dirty) i meant like oxytocin or something, which promotes affection in the terrorists heart. 

lioness adopts deer, cat adopts chicks , under the influence of oxytocin n in case of cat , it was for life ,that bond.  so you pump oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins one and all into the room, terroriat starts feeling affectionate and loving towards his victims, feels remorse, surrenders and  happy ending. Ta da!!! 

same with  other violenent peopele, instead of using pepper spray how bout love spray? taxi driver is trying to rape. affection spray!  starts feeling this tugging in his heart, suddenly want to nurture and protect the victim, feels like shit about himself commits suicide!. hope that spray doesnt affect you and you wont call the police because u felt sorry for that bastard and rescue him! 

Anyway worth a shot!!

For that matter take it one step further - chemical warfare - Spray on entire ISIS territory! what will happen? Pump prozac through water lines, every body will be giddy with happiness, even tho temporarily. Will it work? What hasnt anyone done it yet?  too expensive or is arms industry lobby  against this for obvious reasons.
Well wars are not fought by angry young men ( well on the ground may be ) but its the cold calculating power hungry men sitting at the top who are doing wars...so Dont think oxytocin or prozac will cut it with those Bushes and Putins..

random

When do we help people by telling them things and when are we being stupid by assuming other people dont know anything   when they probably know more than us.
When I say stupid people follow tradition, give mandatory gift etc... I m probably doing the same, they probably know things I dont, how to maintain relationships etc and I m being a fool?
Things should change may be - but One way it is not gonna happen is by calling other people - bad names.

This requires us to understand and be more tuned into people??
or better tuned to ourself? Am I giving gyan to help or to show that I know better? is it a ego deal or a genuine concern?
sometimes ego is hidden behind genuine concern?

empathy is what causes irritation in us when we see someone wearing uncomfortable clothes or have piercings which we feel are uncomfortable, empathy makes us feel like we have them ourselves.
embarrassment especially we feel embarrassed for others
empathy BTW is our reaction to their situation may not be in tune with what they are feeling in their situation?
do we try to change other and be controlling sometimes because of empathy?

value of life

value of 1 European/American life = 10 Asian lives = 100 African lives.

Ferry capsizes in South Korean, Its PM resigns, people all over the world cry for the drowned people. People in my office followed the news and cried. After a month a ferry capsized in Bangladesh - hardly made any news. Nobody cried for Bangladeshis. 200 girls kidnapped in Nigeria makes news after 3 weeks, 1 girl missing in Britain causes news the next day.
Thats the way the world is. Its not others who value us like that, Its how we value ourselves. Bangladeshis or Indians wouldnt even dream that any minister would resign because of a few 1000 deaths. But Koreans did. People cried because people themselves values themselves. We dont value our life,especially poor/rural life. I think 1 urban indian life = 5-10 rural lives.
Even the burden on earth is like wise. 1 UK person is as much a burden on earth as 100 Indians. Heating, Elecricity, food , waste - everything. 1 UK person sucks out 100 times more out of this earth than Indian in everyway. Population of India is alarming! but I think even a slight increase in population in developed nations should be seen with alarm.   Population should be balanced with weights like this from now on.

When people say girls are not good at maths I get wild!
but when people say most of the criminal/terrorist and socially disruptive are young males. I nod and agree
Am I sexist?
just like I am good at maths A,S and V are perfectly sane and not prone to aggression/criminal-terrorist activity :D . Why dont I object to the second meme?

answer: Thats because they are not stereotyping young men as aggressive, they are stereotyping agressive people as young men. Got it? 
Its like saying all those who didnt do well in maths are girls, that's  different from saying all girls are bad at maths. 

Is it helping

What is the use of it
what benefit are u getting
Is it helping

Grrrr Really irritating! Ok not spiritual, this  getting irritated. I know but I not there yet ok?
When ever I do something - like Yoga or meditation or something fun
People ask me such questions, especially with meditation. did it help? with what?
Why should we do everything with this kind of attitude? It really annoys me because I am trying to get away from it and when people ask, that plants a worm in my head and I start thinking did it help? what is the use of this and then something that was so fun and wonderful becomes a chore. It rots and dies ;-) (Dramatics :P just because :P )
Cant we do something just because? Why? Just because.
people even sometimes say , if it doesnot "help" .... isnt it a waste of time! :-S 
coursera course.. just for fun, psychology - yeah just for fun ,why not? When u can drink - just for fun? and meet people - just for fun?
I went to a dance class - Is it good? Yeah it was great fun... then the other questions . Did u lose weight? Are u thinner? how many calories does it burn? :-(
no no no dont think like that... when walking to the station dont think its so far how much time it will take. just concentrate on this step and then this one and then this one...
No external motivators, internal ones.. no need or progress bars, no need of carrots - all those steal away from us the joy of being. just be!

ps: This exercise thing -  I am enjoying doing yoga, makes me feel wonderful, endorphins and being able to do head stand and all.. cool! but the moment I weight myself - All this falls apart. what all I did becomes "waste". Didnt I enjoy it? yes, hasn't it made me healthy, stronger, stretchier - Yeah, but No matter - Its all waste!!! because you didnt meat the objective. This goal setting and progress measuring is soul sapping, Our new culture based exclusive on this is the one that is WASTE! It takes away everything  and leaves me with an emtpy score - Pass/Fail. Even the happiness of pass is short lived and insecure :-( I hate this.

Ursula Le Guin

Ursula Leguin is a science fiction writer!
Duh! how could I have missed that?
I read her earth sea series which is fantasy, zenish. I really liked it. I must have stereotyped her as fantasy writer...I love Sci-fi I have been looking for Sci-fi all over the world, I love Ursula.. How come I never looked to see what all she has written? I believe that I do look up authors, tho I dont remember their names. I milk them for all content. apparently I dont. 
strange.
anyway really enjoyed reading left hand of darkness. yeah It does not really feel like sci-fi but it is.Gonna lap it out!

back to De'mello

Anotny DeMello is brutal :-D
I read Awareness couple of years ago, I just loved it. I recommended it to one and all. I forwarded the pdf, asked them to buy the book, shared the videos etc etc.
I am back to Anthony again after 2 years, Offcourse he is awesome, he is totally worth all the fuss I made about it. He is a wakeup call,  but of the kick in the butt types :D Only this time I am seeing it. He is brutal, He is cutting you to pieces :D I offcourse still love it, but I can see others less objective(less cynical ;)  may be offended. I m somewhat thankful lot of people - actually no one except P read it. P didnt like him one bit and I wondered why.
What we read and what impact it has on us is totally dependent on the state of mind at that point of  time . brain state = past experiences, mental patterns and blocks. I  saw a very loving and uplifting book,  I had a pdf which didnt even have a name on it. I had no clue when I started reading what It was, but as I read it, I could feel that floating feeling you get with some spiritual books which banish the darkness temporarily. atleast a two month high I must have got.
Dont trust anyone he says, everyone is selfish, Just like you are. You dont love anyone he says, u love only the glorified image of that person in your heart! so true so true.  He doesnt mean to be insulting or hurtful, he is just saying it objectively, like in social psychology - Those bystanders who watched and let a girl be stabbed to death ,they say are just like me, they are not cowards or bad people, they are just normal asleep people just like me. same to same.
You dont want to wake up he says, but wake up wake up wake up. How loving he is, in being so brutal. :-D I love that book :D

Well at this point in life, I know what all I need to know, Ive read what all I have to read, psychology, brain stuff, spiritual stuff,artistic stuff, meditation stuff. I am actually saturated. not much else to read without it being repetitive. So..  enough stalling, Now there is not much else to do..but to do! TO DO! hmmm... but do I want to do? :D

bedrooms

Is the idea of having a room solely for sleeping stupid?
we are a bunch of sheep, arent we? we all have bedrooms fancy bathrooms. Bathrooms have to be really nice. Why? because some western company saw a way to make money sometimes after WW2?
Do you remember the bathrooms and houses in early 80's? not more than 3X5 feet. Clean and neat yes but fancy.. why? just because we have money no?
Who had the luxury of bedrooms? There were big halls which were used for living in the day and sleeping in the night. and as for bathrooms?
at least bedroom is 8 hours per day but bathroom - 15 mins per person (if you spending more, u are vain or a pervert).  We are a crazy sheep civilisation. we are cutting down forests and heating up earth and we are wasting rooms by keep a permanent bed in it which we use just at the night!
 Most of our houses itself are empty most of the time and rest of the time we are sleeping. so may be it makes sense to have rooms for bed but why have a living room ;-)

changes since meditation course

5 days exersice
food logging
meditation
waking up early
checking phone once an hour

After a month, you guys better still be with me!  

after 15 days
food logging
5 days exercise
meditation are with me, other 2 are gone :)

Arrrgh!

Oh shit oh shit! What all

Technological advances are being made in neurobiology. Inject a gene, so  brain areas can be switched on and off by using light (in a rat as of now). Infecting the brain with genes by using a virus. 

Studies about how hormones affect our decisions. (Oxytocin makes us really trusting). How certain gene can determine if you will be successful or not in the stock market ie gene determines how risky you will be. Scary scary scary !

There is an urgent need to develop ethics and morals and to basically get enlightened. Our science has reached such a level that there is serious chance of bad guys being able to screw us (means humanity) royally. Super Villian governments, super Villian organisations - controlling whole world. Distopia!!!! Marketing and advertising is already doing lot of such things but this can go to whole new levels of invasive ness. Paranoid? I think I've got a right to be!!  It is possible for this to happen in my lifetime. We are still stick in narrow greed mindsets and we are discovering tools like this. Enlightenment where are u? Un enlightened souls can't handle this much science? :O Consciousnesss WAKEUP!!!! NOW!!! TRinggggggggggg!!!!

 

Ok panic attack over :-) 

The teachings are teachings but different people see it differently.
One monk said, the teachings were not really assertion of reality but a tool used to direct the monks into enlightenment.  Another says we should not think about this but use it in meditative state to examine what self is.

The concept of atma - is different in Hindu and Buddhist ... These are all just concepts, theories - like trying to explain red to blind person. different people do it differently but there is no absolute way to do it? The concept is like a map or a finger pointing in a direction or something. its not the real thing.  self exists /doesnot exist may both make sense, may be different ways of looking at a reality. we will know what red means only when we actually get sight... now after all these lectures dont u feel - if you dont trust your self then waht is? then again self is perceptions emotions and thoughts are all misguiding and wrong :D It seems like a paradox intellectually but may be when we experience it , it isnt.

[Some maps are totally wrong -- Like you have a map of Delhi and you are actually in New york.  I think Kuran and Bible with angry Jealous punishing god are like that. :D ]

"This too shall pass!"  Loving this cliché :)

2 questions

Can I access the stillness? even in this?
What is causing this suffering?

Question 1- we(I) are always thinking, I need a vacation/ I need a break, does that break ever come? we need to relax now. because there is nothing else really. we have to vacation in the midst of whatever - calm, serenity may be, or confusion and stress, or pain and anguish, or excitement and happiness( Ironically most difficult to find the stillness when we are happy :) )  Seek stillness this moment, Its always there.

Question 2 - Buddha said life is suffering, I used to be offended by this statement, now I know - life is dis-satisfaction.  Attachments to past, to ego, to status, to status quo, to our happiness and to our suffering, is always causing some kind of Dukha. If we find ourselves unable
to access stillness - question 2 may help. Beware of attachment to stillness itself. Dissatisfaction due to lack of stillness, Ego can also attach shame and sense of failure to lack of stillness.  A good Tshirt would be "I m not ashamed of my Dukha" :)

These 2 questions will help in the path towards more mindfulness.

santa banta

A story by Antony Demello.
2 zen masters - Santa n Banta were friends. Santa was a poor man and Banta was the Zen master at the Kings court. Poor Santa always ate daal roti(lentils) , Banta ate chicken every day.
Banta tells Santa - You know, If you learnt to praise the king a little, you wont have to eat dal roti everyday like this,  you can also eat chicken like me.
Banta says - Psst! You know,If you learnt to like dal roti, you wont have to praise the king any more!!! :-) :-) :-)

This stuck a chord with me.. make contacts - talk to people, keep connections with "important" people.
May be you cant not praise the king and expect to eat chicken :)
I make the choice consciously - I'll like my dal roti thank u very much!

relax now

was thinking - I need a vacation to unwind, I am feeling so tired, so stressed, ah when will the weekend come? need the weekend to relax and unwind myself. Then I remembered this weekend I wont have free time, shifting karni hai! Argh!!!!!!!!!!!  Also how many vacations I have taken, as soon as vacation is over, the state is worse than before going to vacation. It takes a long time to stabilize after vacation. No unwinding happens after vacation...
The solution..
Gyan (seriously its not mine, it comes to me from some place else :-p) Relax, destress, unwind should happen at the current moment, learn to relax now, find the peace now, find the calm/silence now - in this moment, on the go...

my posts

I keep reading my blog.. a lot
I noticed, there are three kinds of posts
1) loving/compassionate heart felt posts - like everything has an after glow and warmth.
2) objective head posts - like pseudo science and analytical posts - very neutral, even if something nice/bad is said in these, they are mostly emotionless. I like these two, I enjoy them
3) hate filled posts/angry ... hmmm..
(mostly about the past and they are slowly resolving - anger about vegetarians is resolved, feminist anger is almost resolved, except in some cases, new angers are coming actually

The same person is writing them. How come? A person wise enough to write beautiful posts is stupid enough to indulge in hatred and anger? One day writing beautiful things about river and light shining on water and love and next day about effing america and all...

Aisa hi hota hai. To be human is like this only.

Benevolent sexism

http://www.prevention.com/health/emotional-health/both-women-and-men-display-attitudes-benevolent-sexism

I m proud to say that I m one of the very few people I know who are aware of this kind of sexism ( even tho I didnt know what it was called) and that it was damaging.
I find not only men but girls mostly are benevolently sexists.
This girl made this statement - we women are soooo lucky, we dont have the pressure to take up a job, men have to take a job and support their family. Err I can punch you and break your nose?
My brother is sooo caring and protective, He never lets me go out alone.
My uncle saying women of my family dont travel alone. ( What a row I created then! hahaha :-) being slightly socially dim is kind of nice at times )
Raksha bandhan - When a girl says protect me, clearly seeing herself as weak.
"Mom, You are getting old and You work too hard.! You should rest.. so (offcourse I wont help you but ... ) I will get married and get you a Daughter in law to do the work! :-D "
Sacrificing mother stereo type - Sacrificial goat is also worshipped, so is the mother. Nobody demands a mother to sacrifice for the family, but Its a subtle teaching passed on from mother to daughter, who believes that it is the best for her daughter.
Even in reasonably rich times like today, Do you know who eats the burnt pooris, rice sticking to the bottom of the pot, yesterdays palya?  my mum and yours. and do you argue they are happy doing it, so should continue? then you must also believe that terrorist who die in blast go to heaven and meet 40 virgins. :-P

There is a thin line between caring and benevolent sexism, When we make a case for benevolent sexism- people go to the other extreme. they say  I will punch a woman, but excuse me- punching anyone man woman child dog cat is all wrong no?
People dont give up seats to women on buses which is fine, but they dont give up seats to pregnant women or old women (or old men ) and blame it on feminists :) LOL!
Helping a woman carry her heavy bags up the stairs is not benevolent sexism! yeah may be women sometimes over compensate and refuse all help - that is kind of stupid. me is guilty of that.

Offcourse, There are many women who use benevolent sexism to their advantage. The clever women who get men to do their bidding, but then thats another story.

Heart breaks dont just happen when you break up, it can happen even when u lose a close friend as well.( not only to death!? can just lose friends ! :P ) Or move away from bro/sis/close parents or even a pet? May be when u leave a beloved place too?
Never recognised this, but the symptoms are the same and it takes about the same time to get over too!

Does this apply to everyone or is this just me?

breath is not enough

"use your breath to relax, use breath to go into meditation, use deep breaths to connect to present moment"
Its ok when things are normal, but edge case - there are times when u cant take a deep breath and Its precisely at this moment that u want to relax. You can only laugh at such moments.
When breath is laboured, need to  still find a way to relax. need to break the link between relaxing and breath. need to break the link between mental and physical relaxation. heart is beating hard, cant take deep breaths,head is hurting and u probably cant do anything about all this, still need to find a way to get to that peace which is always in us.
Attention is the only way.

paedophilia

Reading more about bonobos... They are fascinating. They believe in "make love not war" right? and that makes their society well oiled and smooth right? That and them being female dominated offcourse. In contrast humans view sex as something wrong.Sex is controlled as much as possible in all societies. There are all sorts of taboos on all sorts of sex.
Hmmm okay,  Bonobos engage in  paedophilia. They engage in sex even between adult and juvenile regularly, for all combinations and age n gender. This goes to show how anthropomorphising animals and making them good apes and bad apes can back fire eh?
I ve always felt paedophilia is the worst crime ever. The worstest ever ever, most disgusting ,horrid etc. It kinda screws up the child for life. It is psychologically very damaging.

Then why doesn't this damage Bonobo babies? You may ask how do I know that it doesn't damage them? But if it did - wouldn't each and every bonobo be damaged then? So safe assumption. (Well is it same as dogs don't get damaged by rape but humans do. BTW according to scientists dogs don't rape. again its mostly primates and some duck, goose and bottlenose dolphins that rape. most species dont).
Actually
1) Even closely related species are very very different cognitively. Each of the primates have very different social structure and sexual behaviour in nature. So what is bad for one may not be for another. you know good and bad is man made and not exactly universal.
2) We dont know nothing about animal psychology, we can never know what they feel, if they are sad/depressed/damaged, if they need prozac or a shrink.  ( unless we do MRI scans?)

Anyway I am wondering, controversially, may be the problem is human attitude towards sex -  poisoned by religion and society. Is paedophilia damage an artificial/societal reaction? are we teaching our youngsters to feel guilty violated , to feel self hatred and loathing?   Is it a cultural thing? We give artificial importance to innocence and purity, is this the root of the problem?
Animals do not hide sex from juveniles.

I hate our ads/TV shows becoming over sexed and in your face, I am always worried what effect this has on children and adults. but ... that may be some other kind of perversion and not the same as sex being open in a culture...

Bonobos use sex more like we use a hug or a cuddle. It is used to form deep bonds and is very different from the casual sex that is on the increase in the world today. It is the opposite of one night stands. It is the opposite of objectification of sex. Casual sex is used for anything but to form close bonds. I really cant understand todays movies and serials - how it is so ok to jump into bed with someone/anyone but saying I love you can be such a deal breaker!!
I think Bonobo sex is meaningful sex, even tho it happens very often and it happens between one and all. I think when ever they have sex they are saying I love you :D That may be their secret. That may be the difference between hippies of the 60s and the Bonobos?  ( Only speculating... I am kinda anthropomorphising and its always a trap).

And this video, it is strangely heart warming. Shouldn't it be gross and ewww? ( seeing all these school kids smooching IS ewww) but its not. Its touching. wonder why?

http://www.boredpanda.com/first-kiss-strangers-kissing-tatiana-pilieva/

Get rid of the men :D

( again its not the feminist speaking, promise)
This baboon gang had a very fortunate tragedy happen to them, They were foraging in a garbage dump of a hotel. As it happens with hierarchical societies, only the alpha males ( aka the jerks and the ass hole males) got to eat at the dump, they chased away all the females and the docile males. Unfortunately(?) The meat there was infected with TB, So this killed off half the males in that troupe. It killed off all the jerks basically. And what happened after that was magical. The group transformed into a peaceful egalitarian group, and remains so even after 20 years. Surprisingly, the new culture of the group was adopted by all the new males that came into the group.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Q-bB-qywJ0

So What do we do for world peace?  I would love a TB like that affecting the humans.
(To be fair, there are lot of bully jerk asshole women too. I guess they too need to go :)

Rant: Isnt in unfortunate that what we strive for, what we treat as ultimate success , What humanity wants their precious children to be, is to be a Type A(Alpha) asshole. Thats our ideal. We deserve to be doomed and die and turn into radioactive ash.

contraception

Good to hear confirmation of my ideas by Yale professors.
One of the greatest inventions of latest times? Contraception. The single important invention, the game changer when it comes to rights of women. The transformation is still going on, but having 1 or 2 children or even 4 instead of 10-18 makes a huge difference to the life expectancy health and therefore to the financial independence of women.
The question which was asked was - We are closer in behaviour to Chimps than Bonobos, which totally sucks. Bonobos are almost like an utopian society, with very low violence and high morality and loads of fun. They asked what will it take for humans to switch from Chimp like life to Bonobo like life. Professor said - Female dominated society and the first step towards that is contraception.

Like I have said before ( not as a feminist, mind!) The foundation of a male dominated society is insecurity of paternity. Hence all the evil in this world. Hence the importance of monogamy of the female, Hence all the honour and crap,Hence the hatred of femininity in men, Of Homosexuality, all the false bravado etc.
If the society does this critical turn and becomes female dominant, the first thing to go will be marriage. Bonobo society - free love rules. Not just between males and females, between females and  between males, Age/sex/probably relation-ship no bar and they also engage in all sorts of clearly not gonna make a baby type sex ( Oh yeah - being gay is not unnatural? and then again it wouldn't matter either ways ) and this surprisingly  makes the Bonono society much stronger and strongly bonded, less violent than chimps and not completely deranged and sex crazed like our completely sexually controlled,guilt ridden human society (Delhi rapists anyone?)

This is strangely in line with the new age/spiritual wisdom ( not the sex part, the female dominance part) that humans should turn to their Yin or feminine side, and start acknowledging the importance of women for our earth to survive. They predict that if everything goes right, Utopia is coming - the next step in our evolution - A female dominated society. Actually if it is female important society  There will be no dominance because there is no insecurity and it fits with the natural hierarchy. This transformation apparently started in 2012 :) good luck to us. 

taste dream

I just cant seem to get over it, . It was vile! It was just a very vile and horrible dream. There was nothing else to the dream, no audio, no visual, just taste, just a flash of vile vile taste. God! worst nightmare ever. people are talking about whether dreams or color or black and white. What nonsense! Dreams are exactly like real life, all colors! and sensations. more colours and more sensations than real life for sure. flying... and such taste I m sure Ive never tasted such vile stuff ever in my life! I had to eat an orange to convince myself that reality was still ok. There are still good tastes in this world. Thank god.
Being sick is really bad, dreams wise. More like fainting than sleeping and sick sick dreams. like I m going crazy, like the fabric of reality was wavering. Was it really bad dream? It was like u meditated so much, you want enlightenment, I will show you. God It was so scary. If you are not ready, knowing the secrets of this world, what is behind the virtual reality machine can make us go mad? atleast it felt like that.
I dream touch and feel sensations, temperature, I dont remember any smell dreams.

morality and disgust

This is from Moralities course on coursera.
We always mistake disgusting for morally wrong :D haha it was so hard for me to say it is not wrong as I was disgusted with it.
One man gets a chicken ( not live, meat) from super market has sex with it and then cooks it and eats it. Is it wrong? ewww ! its disgusting. But is it wrong! no... :D
same with the incest case.
like I said in another case - logically I may treat it as ok, but I am still disgusted. not so much with consensual incest, That horrid novel where a guy committed suicide cause his wife turned out to be his half sister..and I was outraged by the suicide. ( somehow its like women committing suicide after rape in hindi movies. it infuriated me even when I was little ( like 10/12) its surprising how much gets thru to young minds. may be my morality holds suicide as very wrong.  Like he said Most conservative people give lot of importance to honour and purity over harm . I actually got disgusted with honour and purity even as a lil kid, hold those values as very low compared to harm. so me an kinda natural liberal.

Also he talked about disgust scale. Some people are naturally more prone to disgust than others. so this sometimes determines ur attitude to homosexuality,inter-racial marriage  and whether u are in general conservative or liberal! ah! may be when I take so much pride in being liberal. it may be just because I am not that disgust sensitive. I was fundamentalist about a lot of things, I think that came from ideology and not disgust. So may be I m more libreral than many people because my nose isnt that sensitive. I think if u have a very sensitive nose u get disgusted very easily :-P that was a joke, but seriously may be I dont feel that strongly about incest at all like some other people would feel which may be directly related to me feeling relatively less disgusted with blood and pus and dirty toilets or a dead body.

Also he said most people answered all those questions as wrong because they were disgusting except for some very liberal students from elitist universities. do I see myself as elitist and so I say its all not wrong?

I noticed that disgust lingers. like he said in the example that people very less tolerant after being disgusted by fart smell. I felt that my disgust lingered after seeing one disgusting picture and I almost rated the next pictures as more gross that I would feel generally.

Wonder why cockroaches positively disgust me to death :D 

Momo

How come I have not written anything about Momo yet!
It was like reading a book at the most appropriate time for it. Its a children's book, but so profound, so beautiful, so poetic and magical! so lovely, so sensitive! God! It warmed my heart! and melted it! not to mention I cried. ( yes anything in my favourite list these days = I cried! I dono what it says about me)
Studio Ghilbli! yes! Its the same sensitivity about this world. Ende is just loveable. Oh its so sad that his books are all in German. not reprinted in English and now being sold for 100s of $$..
I connected so much with this book, this book put into words exactly what I was feeling but not able to express about life/world today. His ideas about toys, his ideas about children playing, his ideas about time saving bank and how everyone is saving time! and then goes crazy. Oh god! he stole words right out of my head or what? Exactly what I was feeling....I really resonated with this book and with Momo. Momo and her friend Beepo road sweeper, I just loved them. I loved the city in which she was and  I loved the turtle and Dr Horus or Dr Death. I loved the lillies! I m sure he - Ende had seen and felt those beautiful hour lillies in this own heart or he couldnt have writen about them. He is a lovely soul! yeah he is ! :) 

engage with life?

Are we moving away from living?  Its the cost of development and efficiency. I spend 8 hours in my day trying to fix minor bugs in peoples TV software and I hardly do any of the work that directly affects me -myself. except for cooking and shopping.
Reading early 1900s book - Anne of the green gables. They lived a little more "life" than us. They made their own cakes, decorated their houses,stitched  their clothes , grew their own good, cooked their food and enjoyed it all. Or may be its just an idealistic novel setting which just drew me in. Still...
Am I recommending being a "house wife" :-D huh! Anne is not a house wife - 16 year old  school maam and then a writer. Her adoptive parents are an old maid and a bachelor.  bro sister. :-P so no "wife" in picture! Huh! :-)
Question is - Why am I  doing something and all?  Having delegated most of the work in my life, have I started feeling more disengaged with living? should I start doing more things my-self? It is very efficient for an industry to do everything for me, but still.... it makes my life less meaningful, less engaging and less interesting.  in some way? may be? no?

Dehumanized

After reading Jonathan Haidt blog about how people reason about things which they are passionate about, I went over the discussion about morality of eating meat again. This time I went over with an open mind, trying to keep out my anger about narrow minded caste-ists out of my head.

I bought into some of the arguments. I think the way meat industry operates today is wrong. It is immoral. It is de-humanized. ( mostly de-humanized .There are farms which proclaim to be ethical in their treatment of animals, let us find out more about them)
Killing animals is not wrong - for an Eskimo, for Pigmy in Kalahari dessert. May be keeping your own chicken and killing them is not wrong. Free range farmed eggs is not wrong. but  for most part the factories which abuse the birth cycle of cows/sheep/chicken, feeding them hormones to grow them fat, keeping them in tin size coups. all wrong. Industrialised meat is wrong. Industrialised milk is also wrong :( Halal is more wrong than normal meat.

Meat farming is not the only place humans have gone de-humanised, Grain farming, huge forests are razed to grow coffee/tea/corn/rubber/tobacco. GM crops and trying to make people dependent on seed is pure evil. Banking, Oil, Real estate, Pharmacy - every industry which is looking at money and profit and not at the people angle of things.- De-humanized....
... and its not just them... its me too.... I m using so many things in my life, I take it for granted, how is it actually made? I m so disconnected from all that. I m quite happy enjoying the luxury of my life. Shouldnt I be connected? Shouldn't I know how it happens? shouldn't we all be interested and find out?  maybe It is time to take more seriously the question of who is making my clothes, my shoes, my watches, my TV, my petrol, my soup, my cheese... how is it happening? Its not all magic, Lets look behind the curtains. who is making them? at what cost? at what value?  We should all care, only then things will start getting human again - may be. I think its time we became more human, we have gone too far into being machines :(

http://www-rohan.sdsu.edu/faculty/dunnweb/rprnts.omelas.pdf

When I first read it,  I didnt understand it. Blank.  I read a few reviews of the story and only then I understood what she is alluding to. Who is the little girl in our omelas?  May be we should have the courage to look at the little girl and then ...walk away?

deterministic world

People given diagnoses of “antisocial personality disorder” or “psychopathy” show signs of morality blindness from the time they are children. They bully younger children, torture animals, habitually lie and seem incapable of empathy or remorse, often despite normal family backgrounds. Some of these children grow up into the monsters who bilk elderly people out of their savings, rape a succession of women or shoot convenience-store clerks lying on the floor during a robbery. 

from:
http://pinker.wjh.harvard.edu/articles/media/The%20Moral%20Instinct%20-%20New%20York%20Times.htm


Genes which determine behaviour is very scary to me.
I know they do, you can breed in friendliness and viciousness or cunningness in dogs - Its not about upbringing its very obviously about genes.
but that makes things very deterministic. Are genes that deterministic? they are not - we dont know much about genes, we know far less than we think we do. and We( the common people) have been fed a very very simplistic version of genetics.
so when someone says there is a gene for smartness and dumbness or gene for paedophilia Lets not go there! thats too complicated.  gene for being a socio-path. If a day comes when someone tests me for my genes to determine if I m smart or not? that would be a very sad day for mankind.
Even statistic is like that, can I deny the truth of it. like women have lower insurance rates then men because they cause fewer car accident! ( YES ASSHOLES! Women ARE BETTER DRIVERS) but I m uncomfortable with applying the statistic to an actual person. I feel it is morally wrong to do it. gene would be far worse thing.
because it makes something deterministic. Its almost like it takes away free will?(?) I m all for studying our brain/genes etc and how it affects behaviour, but I believe that there is far more to us than that. studying each of these areas in their isolation and making deterministic conclusions is wrong. same with disease genes.
I m definitely against capitalistic application of all this science. Like being against nuclear bombs is very different from being against particle physics?

Why dont I have a problem with a weather forecast which says there is 90% probability that it will rain today or that tsunami is going to come. but I have a problem with a prediction that if u have BRACC gene u will get breast cancer? Is it just a matter of time before the gene people start getting it right? then what Ms deeps?  are u only afraid of a immature technology?

I cant pinpoint exactly what is wrong but something is..  may be I am too right brained to like a world where everything is known and fixed and safe and there is no mystery and magic or something?
[Oh BTW magic reminds me - they are making fairy dolls which have a motor and which hover in air!!! Oh god! if we have every kind of toy will there be any scope of imagination at all. I was really disappointed by the idea of that doll! ]

reasoning

An article by Jonathan Haidt, Or rather a blog makes very good points about how we argue or discuss things.
http://www.thisviewoflife.com/index.php/magazine/articles/why-sam-harris-is-unlikely-to-change-his-mind10

"we reason quite well when we want to find the right answer like for example is it better to drive or take the train, but when emotions get involved we reason to prove ourselves right" like the reasoning of a lawyer trying to win a case he says :)

That is sooo true!!!
When reading a discussion about GM crops, I asked myself, Am I ready to find the right answer or Am I already convinced that GM companies are evil and are raping mother nature? Answer, not surprisingly, is I am emotional about the issue and I will read only those arguments which support my view and laugh at or get outraged by arguments which oppose my view.
Discussion about Gay rights- Is there any possibility that any argument in those forums will be able to convince me that being gay is wrong? hmmm I dont think so! It may be socially great attitude but its not scientific...( understand why some people think being gay is wrong...you dont have to buy into their argument .you can just start seeing why they think the way they think. Start seeing their mental blocks. This will help me to not get outraged? This is easier said than done! )

Reason mostly is slave to emotions. may be asking this question - Am I really ready to find the truth or Do I want to prove myself right ?  may help us open up and use the actual reason which may allow us to find the right answer?

hota hai yaar!
Galti se mistake ho jata hai! bade bodon se ho jata hai!
rone ko dhone ka, phir kuch deer mein uth ke aage bad ne ka!  bus!

What is natural?

Being gay - is un-natural so we should ban it
people use these arguments to justify their own form of diet
- humans being didnt eat meat naturally  we dont have teeth stomach etc for meat
- human being ates meat naturally, we were hunter gatherers.
It is natural for men to be promiscuous! To justify cheating men.

So? Rape is natural. Birth control is not.
Disease is natural, Medicine is not!

Something being natural is neither a pro or con for any behaviour, finding what is natural  just helps us understand ourselves better. Thats all.  Especially in the domain of ethics.

I think it is very important to know what is natural, but to only to help us understand.
some things may be natural and  we continue to do it that way
something may natural but will definitely be a no-no.

Diet wise, its important to know what is our natural diet and stick to it may be,
but If you are a moral vegetarian -you think killing animals is wrong, what does it matter if 100,000 years ago humans ate veg or meat?

That aside, I find evolution and psychology really fascinating, both sciences mostly used to find what is natural. I m very curious to know what is natural. Why things are the way they are! How were things before, did we always think and feel like this? What is behind our thin veil of rationality? Gives us different perspective and may be open up our minds.
what do you think?

Random

what is living?
In old days entertainment was a break from life. now life is a break from entertainment....
Watching TV and pausing it to get my food to eat in front of TV... break from entertainment for living.

This was a wrong thought to think just before sleeping,
I must have spent hours and hours, half asleep half awake, thinking which moment in that day counted as "life".  rewind rewind rewind the whole day - so what is this life then?   painting, yoga, gardening, cooking, eating,FB time, coursera, call home, furniture rearranging. thoroughly enjoyable self development learning etc  but was it life or break from life?

What is living what moments of my life count as living?

When do we help people by telling them things and when are we being stupid by assuming other people dont know anything when they probably know more than us.
When I say stupid people follow tradition, give mandatory gift etc... I m probably doing the same? they probably know thiigs I dont, how to maintain relationships etc and I m being a fool?
(Things should change may be - but One way it is not gonna happen is by calling other people - bad names.)
This requires us to understand and be more tuned into people -better??
or better tuned to ourself? Am I giving gyan to help or to show that I know better? is it a ego deal or a genuine concern?
sometimes ego is hidden behind genuine concern?

Is this also Empathy? the other side?
Empathy is what causes irritation in us when we see someone wearing uncomfortable clothes or have piercings. Empthay makes us feel like we ourselves have that piercing and we feel that pain/discomfort.
embarrassment! especially we feel embarrassed for others
empathy BTW is our reaction to their situation, may not be in tune with what they are feeling in their situation?

kindness?

Kindly old man was there. He was very kind. It was a winter, the birds in his garden didnt have any food. he fed the brids all thru the winter. Then next year  was a very harsh winter. he fed this birds thru very harsh winter. All the birds very making it now. The weak runts, the slow growers...everyone had a chance now, in this lovely new world. Next winter was harsher but old man -kindly old man helped the birds again.
Then after a few years he died and in the next harsh winter all the birds were wiped out, there were too many there was no food for all of them and they were too weak - nature hadn't made her selection , the runts and slow growers who we humans are so fond of... had diluted the gene pool. so they all went extinct :-D

recycling

Natural organic tea - Pretty cardboard box, wrapped in shiny plastic , inside another plastic air tight bag to keep the freshness, then each tea bag packaged in another easy to tear plastic sachet to keep in individual goodness - Oh! but dont worry I recycled all of it!
I recycle bags and bags every week. even bananas and eggs are packaged and wrapped. so I can recycle a lot. I m doing so much good for this world!

moral humility

moral humility! I love that concept. It may help find answers to many questions.

These days I am (intellectually at least) against convincing other people to my point of view.  how can I be so sure I m right and they are wrong?

Church and evangelist did just that, they were very sure they were right and converted half the world into Christianity. they were thinking they did absolutely right.. it is very doubtful if the effect of that is good.

When I m trying to convince someone that they should diet/become a vegetarian or start re-cycling or save the world and not make their children sissy what if I am being an evangelist.
what if they are killing girls! can I still practice moral humility? What would Dalailama or Buddha do in this case? think win win..
don't think for and against. They don't "want" to kill girls.  punish them, stop them is not gonna work. we need to find a win win. There may be some people who want to kill most do it because .. . ( Grr I m getting angry with them. I want to kick them. I m not good at this understanding thing. )

but may be we will find better solutions to problems when we start thinking win-win. EVERY problem has to have a win win solution, nature vv/s man.  dolphins vs whalers etc.
Its just a ray of hope or a glimmer I see, there is no right and wrong, there is no sides. we are all on one side.
what if we were killer whales? what if our sense of self extended beyond ourselves. would we fight our right hand with our left hand? unless it is a very very dire situation most times we should find a solution which saves both hands, not a compromise with losing a little bit of both hands! but a win win situation, may be we will be smart enough to find that.

I miss the river side...

[ Undrafting an old post. Looks like I wrote it after an afternoon by my favourite lunching spot by the river. but so weird - I start the blog with  "hehe all empathy and spirituality have gone to dogs n replaced by irritation but I m calling it kickass attitude :P :P yeah few posts coming that way" and .... What is kickass/irritated about the blog below?  have split personality?!! ]

I saw this funny bird by the river, he looked like a kid with a bad haircut :D  like a straight haired boy with two vortices on the head :D no one can give them a good hair cut :D LOL!

 Funnier this guy thought he was a duck n was hanging out with some ducks, swimming with them acting like them :D He looks nothing like them. Creepy thing :D They all looked like good kids with oiled hair and this one with bomb blast hair. What do you think we looked like if we din have mirrors? :D


I found its Great Crested Grebe-Male.


photograph by: JJ Harrison (jjharrison89@facebook.com)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Great_Crested_Grebe

saving lives at all costs

[This may not be politically/morally correct, But What the heck ]
Sudden thought I need to stop my donations to RSPCA.
They send me pamphlets about what work they do,
They spent 10,000£ to rehabilitate a mangy dog with half of its mouth torn off.  They rescue a neurotic cat which cant go out, cat with hole in the heart, dog with attitude problems ready to attack any one. They do psychotherapy for these animals and try to fix them and send them to people to adopt.
I wonder what would be the quality of the life of people who adopt these problem pets? Its not the pets fault that it got so sick, its old owners were horrible horrible people.. but still.. is it justified? my money being spent on almost a hopeless case? ( yeah yeah you may think I m a heartless bitch, like I care :-P)

I tried to keep this indoor plant alive for 6 months, insect sprays, re-potting, fertilizers, change window etc ets. It was alive but sickly for such a long time. I wonder was it really kind of me to keep it alive like that? Shouldnt I have just thrown it in the bin as soon as I realised it has root rot?

Now I realise, if a fish is sick, flush it, if a indoor plant is sickly and dying, bin it. If a pet is really sick - like it has diabetes or heart disease? :( enthuse it?? not sure. don't buy breeds which are introducing such problems into dogs, they were eliminated by natural selection in street dogs!
That is the hard reality of life.
We are working against evolution when we try to keep unsuitable specimens alive, . Most plants and animals are designed to be alive only in top most condition, once they suffer damage, they give up and die quickly.  ever tried to save squirrels and baby birds?
Also  It is a huge huge drain on our emotions ( more than money, its the emotions)  It may be a tiny little fish, but seeing it die little by little every day or the plant not reviving at all is really downing.

And what about little ones? I love tulasi plant (holy basil), One summer I had about 500 saplings of basil :-) Should I save them? can I save them? because it is a plant answer is easy - make kashaya and drink. What about baby rabbits or puppies or kittens? Every species produces in excess to compensate for infant mortality, Save them all?

When we put in lot of effort into keeping these things alive, is it kindness or is it pity? or is it some kind of guilt and obligation? which are all wrong reasons.

and What about people?

 Is it really kind to try to save lives at all costs? In this day and age I wonder ... we can keep things and people "alive", even those who are in a really bad way.  The blue baby, accident victim  in coma.... and we are morally obliged to do this in this day.

But it does raise a question, should we change our morality?

Dolphis are intelligent

"Dolphins are highly intelligent creatures, They like to keep themselves occupied all the time. Most of their time is spend in having fun!" the documentary tells me! Grrrr!!!!

We ... are also suppose to be highly ...


Edit: When I was searching for killer whales brains - apparently they have parts to their brain which we dont have, some suspect they are more advanced than humans emotions wise ( Hitch hikers guide to the galaxy? :) ) I found this.( Captian Watson has something to do with  anti whaling and Georg is a Whaler I think)

Captain Watson: "Georg, I happen to measure intelligence by the ability to live in harmony with the natural world. By this criteria, whales are far more intelligent than we are."

Georg: "That is a stupid criteria. By that stupid criteria, you could say cockroaches are smarter than people."

Captain Watson: "Georg, you are beginning to understand what I'm talking about.

dividing or uniting?

opposite of religious is not atheist, because religion divides, atheism also divides.
opposite of  vegetarian is what? caught you! looking for opposite itself is diving! ;-)
Its a way of thinking we need to change,
Start looking for uniting factors not dividing ones.
Start rejecting diving thoughts/ideas/arguments. Is this a dividing thought? that, is enough to make us feel so much better day to day.

There is no win-lose. there is only win-win, there is no win if someone loses we are all connected.