Why is everyone wearing Ironed clothes?

All my friends, my family, the world around me , we are all always happy, we are doing very well, even when we are not doing well, we are handling ourselves perfectly
we have no problems no no

How are you?
I am fine.

We all have perfect skin, no wrinkles no scars perfect teeth and red lips
We all have perfect emotions, no sadness, no frustration, no anger, no no

Our houses have no clutter or dust, behind cupboard doors are perfectly folded Ironed clothes and there is no dust under our beds
Our thoughts are clean too, very PC lest we cause offence, just like our words

and yeah I now know, why everyone is wearing perfectly Ironed clothes

:-(

but me.. I m not like that.
Ill tell you a secret, my house - the mess is not even behind cupboard doors :-) I cleanup and tidy up as you walk in, sometimes not.
Pssttt... I have scars and stretch marks and teeny tiny wrinkles, and white hair and hair in my arm pits too :-O yeah I do
and emotions ha ha emotions are a monster mess, my emotions are! he he. I feel things you know, like sooo sad scared afraid, I lose it! at times! soo angry soo frustrated. I m lazy . no I dont work like clock work, I am not organized, dont even want to be :D yeah, you can say my personality is wrinkled. Its not perfect!
:-O
What! u too? NO!
what? you put on a happy front and smile even when you are breaking inside?
I should  just pretend to be like them. wear Ironed clothes and make up and nobody will notice?
Oh! I should strive to be perfect and wrinkle free at the most superficial and easiest level possible? never mind what is Inside? Oh! because nobody can see inside?

That should be easy then ;-)  :-) 

Asexual

Straight, Gay, Lesbian, BiSexual. Logically there should be something called single also right? someone who doesnot want any partner at all? My thoughts ran like this many times.
There is! Asexual.
http://www.asexuality.org/ One in a Hundred is like this.

We are all unique. Label is just a label. everyone has a shade of this and that and everything else.
http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.php?title=Demisexual

for everyone who has ever wondered what is the big deal about sex? everyone else is pretending or what? this is the place to go to!
asexual is someone who doesnot get sexual thoughts! but what is a sexual thought? Its like telling a blind man what color is :) Its sweet! where do u draw the line? at the waist? :) :P !!??

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/69810-what-is-sexual-attraction/

If 99% of the people are sexual then why is the whole world trying to pretend to be like asexual? So much hypocrisy. For an asexual person this world is normal - but for all the rest its control/ hide /repress??!? since when they are in their teens? !! 

It is very hard for people to realise that other people may not be feeling/thinking like them. Either way. Sexual people feel asexual people are pretending to be "saintly" and Asexual person probably does not even understand what it is all about. 

bragging

People are usually not ready for my ideas,  they get there in a few years :-P

rape and getting the girl married off to the rapist for instance, in 80s and 90s nobody found it wrong.
The bhai giving dowry for sister,
hero kidnapping heroin to voo her/rape to seduce etc

now the whole world (atleast the sane parts :P ) boos with me at such things

And now another recent one- About Angelina Jolie

She was marketed as a brave mother doing it for her children at that time and lots of people cried with her , now two years on shes has a syndrome named after her - for getting a surgery with no sickness!

http://www.techtimes.com/articles/115942/20151216/highly-commercialized-health-and-beauty-standards-may-lead-to-angelina-jolie-syndrome.htm

and thats what I thought about it in the first place
http://mystic-babe.blogspot.in/2013/06/more-madness-or-is-it.html


So if you dont agree with me, World! I wont argue,  I know you need time to reach maturity. I  will wait it out :P 

mad tomato plant!

My tomato plant, single one, grew into a monster 5 ft wide and 3 ft tall in a few weeks. very quickly  put out 500 tomatoes all at once! like there is no tomorrow!and then with all its green unripe tomatoes, it died!! Winter had come!
What! why did it do that, like a mad person? why did it behave like this? Like a banker in sub prime crisis? Didnt it know better that its better off with a few red ripe tomatoes to propagate itself than have 500 unripe ones?
In nature everything has some innate intelligence, plants flower in season, have fruits and then seeds, fewer fruits during drought and more during good conditions . They know when to do what without interference from humans. They know how to live, Thats how they have survived for millions of years! but what happened with my tomato plant? Why did it lose this sense?
By hybridizing plants by choosing the fastest plentiest fattest tomato plants,  have we robbed the plant of its natural intelligence? what is left is not a proper being but a mad tomato plant? Is it a nutter? :-(
( On second thoughts civilized society so out of touch with nature is also like this only :-P We are all too dependent on tech nutters :D )

With all due respect, yes I am new to this kind of monster gardening which requires a lot of interference from the humans, I should have pruned it, cut off all the extra branches and restricted its fruits to a few, should have planted it early, may be too fertile a soil etc etc etc
But just see what is happening to a plant just by hybridization and what will happen when we start genetically modifying them! They will go totally nuts!

Oh! trying to grow an aquarium plant! aquarium plants hobby is entirely hijacked by geeks, men who like to tweak and tune and meddle endlessly and to control and to compete for maximum effectiveness, who want plants full grown in days!  result - very high maintenance plants with very specific requirements. They want CO2 blown thru the water every week, They want specific wattage bulbs for lighting, you need NPK measuring kits to accurately maintain the nutrient levels. Its as if you are bringing up a test tube baby :D

I think we shud respect nature more and back off a little bit. 

Reading my old posts I am feeling
Maturity is like weight :-P, It fluctuates :-P
It doesnot linearly keep going up with time unfortunately. some moments we are mature and then some we are not. Thats life.

Why konkani has no group bias

In group and out group bias

Just telling people you are over estimator and under estimator was enough for people to form groups. Gulliver knew this well - the little endian and big endian story :-). People will pick any lame reason to form a group and create biases, positive about in group and negative about out group.

Why don't konkanis group themselves based on language?
S was saying she was in a group of 5 Konkanis and they NEVER spoke to each other in konkani. This will never happen with any other Indian language people.
I classify myself as both Kannadiga and Konkani. If there are 5 Kannadigas I would definitely speak in Kannada but why not in Konkani?
My cousin is Pune is a huge Marathi fan/activist but not a konkani one.
Goans are proud of being Goans and not really of Konkani :)

Why do many Konkanis not have this sense of belonging/groupism by the language? Its not that those people are not prone to groupisim but Konkani language fails to be that element which groups.

For all the people involved, Konkani was spoken at home and not in the society, So is Konkani a family thing then, personal and private? meant for relatives only  family only  and hence not sharable? There is a group, but it is very tightly knit?
Interesting :-)

Is this effect present in Tulu? It is definitely not present in Sanketi language which is also a obscure and used by a small group.

moralities of everyday life

Moralities of everyday life

What is it that I want to get out of this course what is it that I want to know?
What is morality?
What was right yesterday isn't right today.
What is right in one part of the world isn't in another. Teacher naming a teddy bear Mohamed , Whale hunting.
What was right for me in one circumstance is not in another.

Drinking - was wrong - immoral. I believed that strongly but it was circumstantial. People in India who drink, beat their wives, spoil their livers,behave like they have no control. This was wrong. Here in UK its okay to drink, Its socially cool to get drunk and talk about it the next day. No beating or spoiling of life happens to these people I have moulded my opinion to suit the country, Now drinking is normal. It is not an issue.

For How much money would I strangle a cat with my bare hands?
I would never!!!
but really today I don't need money.
What if.. I was in debt? I lost my job - nothing too serious but 100,000£ would allow me to stay in UK or go home. I would probably not do it...
What if it were a rat instead?
For how much money would I cut off a chickens head? I eat chicken everyday and for gods sake I eat eggs, break them too.
What if I had a disease and the medicine cost 10,000 Rs and I didn't have it? What if my child was sick or mother?
The morality of the situation changes dramatically. I would probably strangle a cat for a piece of bread, if I had 10000000 Rs but it was floods and there was absolutely no food.
Depends on what is coercing me ( is that the right word?)

Is morality based on the person or circumstance? ( clearly demonstrated in psychology class that it is more circumstance than person even tho instinctively most of us would think it is the person.

What do I want to get out of this class? I want to understand how I make these moral judgements? Is it moral to think of morality?
Would it be easier for me to decide what is right and wrong after this course? may be?
for example Syria. There are people who want to bomb and those who don't want US to interfere. What do I want. I dont know! I cant make a decision. which is moral?
There is a natural course of nature - where death and cruelty is part of life, and then humans are trying to suppress this . Death is not the worst thing. Death is absolutely necessary for life to go on. but.. Is it ever right to chose death over life? 

I also feel I am falling into a trap of morality and doing/not doing judging/not judging a few things. I want to understand, what is happening inside me. The working of the brain.
It is humbling this understanding, I feel what I was really proud of - my values  are all inherited. not self made at all, all my hobbies are inherited too.
Will this class and the other psychology classes help me understand the working of my brain? will they come in handy day to day?

It didn't, recently. There was a bin bag thrown on the street. I didn't pick it up because I was shy, I would do it if I was alone, by-stander effect. no one did it, so no one else would do it.. It was on every ones conscience, then finally the lady in front of me did it.  but I still hope.

I want to understand other people and their motivation. I m quick to judge. These days I may logically understand why someone is doing something. I want to do that more. These classes help me.
They also reinforce many conclusions I have had independently before. That's one of the best things :D

compassion day - social psycology course assignment

The dictionary defines Compassion as "Deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it."

I define being compassionate as awareness,sensitivity,understanding and love. So when it came to practical terms - as to how to make myself more compassionate - I tried to be more sensitive - more tuned into myself and others, more understanding and less judgemental again first and foremost about myself then others and I tried to have a feeling of love in my heart and softness about myself. 

I decided to have this feeling in my heart and go about and see how differently I would behave today. 

 Is compassion offering a seat to a old woman or is compassion not offering a seat to that woman so she doesnot feel so old and weak? Is compassion giving the crying child the candy or teaching the child that the world doesnot revolve around it?

Rather than deciding to do a bunch of compassionate actions (because  I cant sometimes decide?!) , I decided to go with the flow just being more aware and keeping "compassion day" in my mind. 

May be because of the approach that I took, compassion day was more of an internal experience for me rather than an action packed outer experience. If you are familiar with Yin/Yang I guess mine was an Yin Compassion day. 

The first beneficiary was myself, I found myself quickly getting out of bed to get myself a glass of water, instead of ignoring thirst for few more minutes in bed. I also found myself walking to work, Its about 5 kms I always take the bus. The walk was a beautiful experience, I found myself noticing the dew drops on the leaves and spider webs. The huge trees, the canal, dad taking his daughter to school, loving parents,cute pets.  It was raining and 14 degrees, I am really surprised that I was enjoying the walk and appreciating rain drops instead of thinking $£##%%^ London! always raining :-)  You wont believe I just felt so elated and happy, I was jumping and yelping like an 8 year old(in a deserted stretch of the walkway ) I realised this wont happen every day I decide in my mind that I will be compassionate etc. May be it was the newness of it. ( I know because I am trying to be aware since like ages now. Its a very long way, the road to enlightenment) 

Second recipient was my husband, This man hasn't emptied the dish washer today!! ITS HIS TURN!!! My first reaction - He is such a lazy man. Then I realise that situations influence behaviour much much more than personality. Instead of blaming the person, examining the situation. I remind myself he came home late, he is studying for an exam... ok...

Also during news I caught myself stereotyping and generalising during news coverage of burqa or muslim face covering. 

The study on conformance helped me volunteer for a task at work when no one else on the team was forthcoming. and When I asked anyone else to help me - no one came forward. I looked at one  particular person and asked him to help :-) it worked. 

If your behaviour was different than normal, which person did you like more: the "Day of Compassion you" or the "normal you"? If you preferred the "Day of Compassion you," what are the psychological factors that prevent this "you" from coming out?

I obviously like the day of compassion me better, Its been a long time since I have decided to get on this band wagon. The main factor which makes me slip of the wagon is awareness. I forget to be aware that I have to be compassionate.

The main reason for being less compassionate is Ego/being shy, the fear of making a fool of myself. That prevents me from being more open and helping people. I found a dead fox on the street, I was walking alone, I moved it to the side, but when I saw a dead pigeon on the side walk and few other people were present. I didnt put it aside even tho I wanted to. 

I want to put my hand on that old lady's shoulder, she looks sad.  I am not sure would be offended or happy at being offered help. I m not sure an asian stranger talking to them would comfort or frighten them...and so it goes. 

What are the psychological costs and benefits of behaving compassionately? In your view, do the benefits outweigh the costs?

first and foremost benefit of behaving compassionately is to the person itself, the feel good. The sense of well being and genuine freedom. There are material costs and spiritual benefits to being more compassionate.

How did others respond to your compassion? Do you think they noticed a difference in your behavior? What attributions did people make for your behavior, and why?

Others didnot notice or comment on my compassion day, In fact I think I have really changed in past 7 years - being more aware, less angry etc, drastically infact but people still see the same old me. :-) First impressions matter.

If you wanted to encourage others to behave as you did during the Day of Compassion, what psychological techniques would you use? How can social psychology be used to foster a more compassionate society?

compassion works like chain reaction, When someone holds a door open for me, I hold a door open for the next person. When I see some one doing a good deed I do a good deed too.  

If you were to predict your behavior one month from now, do you think it will be changed as a result of participating in the Day of Compassion? If so, how? If not, why not?

I think my behaviour has changed by taking the social psychology course itself, now I can be more understanding and forgiving of people. the experiences have shown how we behave in automated manner, may be be due to obedience or due to conformance or diffusion of responsibility. Its human after all.  It has also reinforced in me the need for awareness.which is so so so important.

dil dhoonda ta hai phir wohi phursate ke raat din....
It was written in a different context but this is so apt of us people who are always waiting for the weekend...

dream

There was very smooth mud at my feet, It was a bright and sunny Indian afternoon, sun was high up in the sky, the mud was very ligth colored sand colored creme color. at first I didnt see anyting around me, then I bent down and touched the mud beucase it was sooo soft I liked to run it between my fingers, then I notices houses next to the street which was acutlaly like a river bed dry one.  I tried to go into the houses and realise they are very high. they have  the karnataka village jagali, which is two hight for me. I walk forward a couple of houses and then there is a house which has steps from the street, i climb up the jagali transforms from house jagali to temple jagali and as I climb I see a temple, finally the door step of the temple the inside is filled with shallow water with statues on pedestals just above water level, and there was a sky ight wiht light pouring in and reflecting on water. I think i saw laxmi on a lotus may be tara or Quan in.

I hate hand dryers

Not for hygine conditions and all that, I believe our body is capable of taking care of itself. but  They are so...almost like nails on blackboard! I hate them. So cruel on our ears.  and our hand our eyes and our senses and everything. I cant ever use one again if I can help it, Ill use toilet paper but not those.
I have always hated its noise, its abasaive so abarassive on the ears. When are we as a culture start noticing such thing and start being kind to ourselves.
beauty/scumptousness :D deliscious things..we should start paying attention to this ( am i getting oooold? old means really old - like 80 or something :D u should see the procelian boxes I am collecting :D I have looked up how to sew a quilt. ok thats another story)

so yeah! we should make things kind to us, nice on our senses, clever energy saving, good on nature - how about a handkerchief, or just wiping the hand on our backside :D comeon, its just water!? Its a left brain /yang thing making effective effecient things? what about beauty, what about how it feels to us. Come on right brain inventors! wake up!

peace

My place of peace with in me,
its always there.
Anger saddness joy, frustration,
thru all this, its always there.
sometimes I forget, sometimes I ignore, sometimes I look frantically and just dont find it
but its always there, waiting for me to come.
with open arms,
Thanks for being there,
I love you, my peace.
( peace peas and piece :P and pees :D ) 

ghanana ghanana ghan

.. gir ayye badira. This song made me cry! my poor county! my poor country people hankering for rain!
 How blessed this land is? UK I mean. how precious rain is for India, how unpredictable, how it holds our (atleast the farmers and village peoples) lives in ransom. Sometimes floods sometimes draught. And UK I have a garden, I havent had to water it even once, The soil is very fertile, look at the greenery around, Its snows badly once in 5 years, they may have floods once in 30 years... god or earth has been partial to this country. May be to small parts of India like bangalore too.
even in premitive days the tragedies of these people must be milder compared to our people? (Vikings and all? May be bangalore is more blessed :D out of the way of mauraders :D)
Even the african song rain rain rain rain beautiful rain...brings tears to my eyes... what is falling freely all around me all year round is so precious for them, adore love worship rain. dance joyously have festivals write songs about :D ( not sarcastic moany songs , cursing rain, like I would be tempted to write if I were a poet)

one person had brilliant idea and made a huge differentce to world

project guttenburg 

God bless him!

groups

Moralities course again.
Humans are naturally very prone to groupism. It is very inherent in our psychology .Just take a group of people and group them into Odd and Even, with in a short time people will have strong group loyalty for their group.
I also read somewhere that supporting sports teams is a way for people to engage in their tribalism, It must be really satisfying to do this kind of distinction.

But it is something we need to watch out for. It comes in the way of fairness. The whole world does it, I know. religionism, patriotism, casteism, regionalism, Aluminis, Clubs,  but I dont want to. Its wrong. Even tho it is natural, it is wrong. Its ok if I m disadvantaged because of this, but I dont favour favouritsm. We WILL find solutions which are good for everyone. This kind of groupism comes into picture because of belife in lack. people belive there is limited good that can happen and they want it for themselves. If you believe in unlimited good, in unlimited resources, in our own resourcefulness -if we believe that there is enough for all...we wont behave like this.


http://mystic-babe.blogspot.co.uk/2011/11/us-vs-them.html

about why I m not blogging and then fittness bug bit me :P

I love blogging
Then why am I not blogging?
I dont have a laptop! you cant replace a laptop with a fluffy ipad. can you? That's what I have done !and stopped blogging, editing photos, downloading torrents, Do courses and lots of other meaningful things u can do with a computer.  Ipad is a waste  for anyone older than 10.
I have also stopped thinking. Is that even possible? but it seems to have happened. I used to sit alone and think, interesting and amusing things. There is no shortage of alone time, it is filled with fittness and health goals! Its the new sickness. everyone has got it, fittness bug :-) Its a good thing? sort of but its almost like a disease.
Boys in my team who spend hours everyday drinking beer have become teetotellers, they drink orange juice and spend those hours in gym.
I spend all those thinking hours still thinking but about what to cook tomorrow and how to cook more healthy so that I lose my first one kilo, My frustrating quest for weight loss puts even Robert Bruce and his spider to shame.
Would I suddenly be really happier if I were 60 kilos instead of 64? Then why all this effort? I put up that question for fun but seriously? The changes I m making are not bad, fittness and health are the most important.

being a certain weight or certain diameter wont make me happy but
If I felt fresh and energetic after work instead of being exhausted, I would be happy.
If I was very healthy and didnt get sick at all I would be happy. 
If my brain was less foggy
if I could freshen up fast in the mornings. 
If I could be of more solid temperment
less anxious about future
more contented about today
more meaning 
more mystery and exploration
got good sleep and good dreams
Really being able to do more push ups or run 10 k, would that make me happy day to day? may be not. or may be. 
just doing that bit of workout is very rewarding, It feels awesome. thats why people get addicted.

see! This is why I am nit blogging! 

dream

Awesome dreams, Its like suddenly my dream machine has upgraded or something to more meaningful interesting programmes.

South american god?evil? some very powerful spirit. me and two other people,(people from my world but now I dont remembe who)  we went on a trek and did some forbidden things and woke some reeally ancient truely evil spirit which was chasing us! Now, how do I get out of this? om namah shivaya! :D  Dont remember if this saved the day, but  I was alive at the end of the dream .

I remember considering options, Ancient south american gods are not so formidible, I can go consult shamans... but looks like I am really scared of south american god people. I have read some really interesting stories about aztects and stuff which have painted a bad picture. but ayahuasca is not so dark, actually its all new ageny, good feel stuff....

wow alienss last week and now gods! its awesome

ursula le guin

My god, Ursula leguin is clever! her stories are really mind blowing. Imaginative but so intelligent, many of the stories are written pondering social issues, almost scientific, she is more like a social scientist, or a anthropologist for her imaginary people. It is not fiction at all, it is science, it is more like a thesis or something.  The coherence of the worlds! impeccable! Even tho it is fantasy I feel like it is very likely to happen, like real. My mind is blown, her stories are hard hitting. Her imaginary worlds are sometimes disturbing. The one where men are treated as prized sires, so disturbing. (Ok I am not a feminist, I am a humanist, I dont want such suppression of any people, man woman,black, white! none! ) Heavy stuff But I love her!

ps: Infact her parents were actually antropologists, I think that influenced her deeply. She uses this knowledge to experiment with her feminist and left leaning ideologies. Beautiful!

originality is overrated?

I get very irritated when people dont have original ideas, when they parrot societies or popular opinions. This is how it is done! elders have said! It is written in Bible! (or Kuran or Puran :P) I am screaming in my head, But why? Why not some other way? May be they were wrong?? have you never cared to ask?
God! These people should do some thinking on your own! Then I got thinking, Should they? What if they are not very smart? :P what if their original ideas turn out to be crap? :D Then aren't They better off copying or imitating other successful or smart people? I have seen not so smart people become quite successful cause their parents are smart and they copy faithfully their parents style and thoughts. Is that a bad thing?  Not for some! hmm offcourse its their luck that they found the right person to copy. Thats why societies made rules, cause societies dont trust most peoples' smarts :P

Then why get irritated m'am! ( Be condasending instead ;) )

What we do is mostly copying - imitating. Its not a bad thing, it is the way we learn. its the quickest way to progress. see kids. imitation makes them quick learners. that is a sign of intelligence actually. even cats and dogs do imitation :) Knowing whom to copy is a great skill. Copying is a good servisable skill but Originality is where the magic happens.
If copying is like breeding and originality is like the mutations, Its where the  growth and evolution happens! Originality is not over rated by friend, Its how life itself happens! wah wah! wah wah!

profound

After the hard kettlebell class, I said Thank You Ben! The girl next to me said the same n then says to me , I dono why we thank him for torturing us :-) 

So true! 

 Why dont we do that to life? Why dont we thank life for being a hard task master? Why dont we feel so great after a great lesson by life :-) 

Cant we treat life like a hard fitness class? love the hard bits because we know its making us stronger,better every minute? Find pure joy like we do when we are gritting our teeth n doing that one more push up? 

 Can we? its just an attitude change after all?

all beliefs - with a pinch of salt.

cats are thieves, cant trust cats, they dont love u.
cats think u are their servant.
 some people say oh i hate cats, u got a cat i wont come to your house, but they never keep their promise ;)

cats are not loving...cat will eat you if you die! For gods sake, ever had a cat? ever died? no.. then how do u know? :-P

Our human heads are so full of shit.

No offence !even mine is. I mean we are so full of ready made information, filled up like fast food. Its hard to figure out how much of it is true and how much of it is bullshit. We pick up our beliefs and ideas from all sorts of very unreliable sources. We are like sponge, we hear something, it gets processed and gets stored in our head sometimes as true without our conscious validation.
I have seen thought seeding happen, I say something to someone, they deny it, reject it and forget it, after a couple of months, they come back to me and tell the same thing I suggested back to me!! They believe its their suggestion and that they agree with it! :-) I bet I do the same and I dont even know it!
So all beliefs - with a pinch of salt.

profits

The idea of profit itself is a ponzi scheme, isnt it? if u want to get more than what u spent for ur product... someone else has to pay for it. when u barter, u ideally get something equal to what u gave. but if u make a profit, some one makes a loss. so greater the profit greater the loss - somewhere.
Isn't that wrong? shouldn't I make sure everyone get their due? then concept of profit is silly?

It isnt obvious but just like with ponzi schemes, just by making a profit lot of people are going to round up poor n in loss, it is happening all around us n we are not realising it. Why are their poor and rich? because someone made a hefy profit ;-)  ok that is over simplification.
You should charge for a product what it cost you plus slightly more so that you can make a living. Charging for a product based on demand and supply/ Or based on how the market is doing. Its is not fair. Is it?

Money should mean nothing unless u create real wealth real value , but in today's world the people who make most money are facilitators or middle men like stock brokers, Advertisers, or opportunists or few entertainers footballers/cricketers/film stars/singers CEOs not the people doing real work.

 Difference in currency of 2 countries , makes ur effort to be valued differently than in another place. Are they really creating more/less wealth in the solid real world? no!

Merchants have made the most money since the birth of civilizations, is that fair? Warriors have made mostest money because they just snatched it from other people. That is not fair and we all accept that :-)

eternal torture

The idea of eternal torture, this stuck a chord of fear in me, getting killed is ok, but being held captive n being tortured for years... strikes a deep gloom in my heart.
It started of by the idea of pitr in indian mythology, they say if ur children or inheritors dont have children then u will be stuck in the world where u cannot work on salvation. I donot believe all this, it seems extreemly unfair to some very nice people I know and also very manipulative may to get people to procreate, ( If Dr Bappa didnt go to heaven, then ur heaven is an effing place you disgusting bastards!).
 Anyway, this reminded me of some fiction (or was it a dream?)  where people are tortured for life ( NOT tortured untill death, because they are not in a hurry to kill them) . They were operated on, on their brains, so there was no escape from that torture for them - ever. They were physically mutilated to be on all fours and in leashes and mentally mutilated so that they only have enough sense to feel the horror of the torture. I keep getting the picture of   chained collared person on all fours with a gas mask  and that peson is not a person anymore, he is reduced to a worm or something. They keep saying death is a blessing. so damn horrifying and disturbing this was. I associate this with ISIS and middleeast. I dont know were I got it from, I think its a mish mash dream,
 Could be what my brain made up after reading about the torture of victims by psychopaths, girl with dragon tatoo and the halle berry movie with her disgusting husband and that guy in US who help some girls captive and tortured then for decades ( Ah this seems to be the main horror influence).  Or it could be Game of thrones torture scenes and the ambience is out of the central asian jail in Batman movie.

Horrid horrible dream/thought or whatever! 
Take care and watch nice things Deeps, not such horror, it has left a bad impact on your mind.

pointless arguments

tarka -logic or argument is usually used in kannada to mean unnecessary arguments.
This is what we do these days - day in day out. We make logical statements,supporting this and opposing that, apparently passionately on facebook.
It is strangely satisfying but utlimately unwholesome and completely pointless.

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Be a man

Man is sometimes used as a substitute word for Human.  

But the two phrases "Dont be an animal" - i.e  be human and "Be a man" mean opposite. When u tell a man to Be a man, you are telling a Man to be male, i.e less human and more animal! 

Men would rather be a Man (male) first and Be a Man(human) later.

Be a Man(male) is a challenge to the ego, Be a Man(human) is a emotional plea.

Yang n Yin.

Does be a human mean Be a woman?The positive qualities(stereotypes obviously) associated with woman like kindness, more reasonable, more in control of urges, loving caring etc are the exact virtues that go into being a Human :D

But when people tell u not to be woman( nobody tells anyone to "be a woman",only "dont be a woman"  ;) ) only negative conotations cowardly, fleeing ,weak etc apply ;)

This world, manipulative or what? ;)